- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
My maid of honor came down for July 4th weekend with her friend from high school and current roommate – they’ve been friends for a long time. Initially, she said that she was coming to spend the weekend with me and staying at my place but then she said she had to spend one evening with another friend from college which was fine because I had a wedding reception to go to that evening. Then she invited other people over to the first evening and we found out that the friend she brought with her is allergic to cats. The next day she spent most of the morning having breakfast with someone else and we got about four hours in before she went to spend the evening with the college friend while I went to the wedding rception. Today, we roadtripped to a state park and had dinner together so spent like 8 hours together but she went to spend the rest of the evening with that same college friend and sleep over there.
Throughout the whole weekend she’s been having conversations with her current roommate and they’ve been going off on their own so even the time she did spend with me, a lot of it she spent with talking to her current roommate.
This is mostly just a whiny rant but I just feel a little neglected. I totally understand that she has other friends she wants to see, I just wish she had made that clear from the beginning instead of changing plans when she got here. And her college roommate just came back from a week long hookup with a guy she just got together with so I understand there must be a lot of gossip there but I just wish it could have happened without me feeling excluded.
I did try to talk to her about it and she said my accusations are totally unfounded and that I made her mad and that the only times she talked to her college roommate without including me is when FI and I were PDAing. We did peck each other on the lips sometimes but were definitely not making out. Also she thought that I would spend the weekend with just her and leave my man at home even though we live together and Fri was a wedding planning day.
Retrospectively it just seems like a ton of miscommunication. I had a girls night planned for us but I had no idea she wanted me to leave FI out of our plans for the weekend and I had no idea she would be visiting other people. I’m also a little frustrated that she can’t accept FI and I as unit.