Post # 1
Basically we are doing the ceremony at 11am, followed by a luncheon from 12 – 2 (ish – it may end earlier which is fine with me). We’re doing a “first flight” at 3 pm up the road from our reception venue (fiance is a pilot).
Then we have a GAP, so we can take photos, do some setup for the reception – and maybe even take a nap.
Reception is 6 pm – 10 pm.
This is a destination wedding in Hawaii – most of the guests will already be on the island, checked into the hotel for at least a few days – so I’m hoping that they will WELCOME a break in the middle of the wedding day. (most of their hotels are within a 20 minute drive of the reception venue).
But maybe I’m crazy.
Is this just too long of a day?
Wedding is in 3 weeks – so it would take some moving around to change it – but I COULD change it if I need to – to a more traditional timeline.
I just sort of figured, we’re all here – why pack it all into 9 long hours – when we could split up the day – have a quick ceremony, a nice luncheon and then a BREAK. – the Reception is a Bollywood theme complete with optional “costume” changes – so that gives the guests time to change into their bollywood outfits.
But I’m starting to worry that people don’t WANT to change in the middle of the day – and don’t want to do 2 parties . .
Is a 3 hour gap too long or too short?
I mean – it’s Hawaii – they can go home, go for a swim, shower and change and still get to the reception on time.
I’m in that phase of second-guessing the WHOLE thing I guess – but the timeline is starting to freak me out a little.
Post # 3
The luncheon sounds a bit long–it generally doesnt take people two hours to eat, and you dont want them to exhaust all their topics of conversation or else they will get bored at the reception.
Post # 4
personally, I’d start the ceremony at 3pm (or 4pm, your ceremony shouldn’t take an hour unless you really have a bunch of things being said and done right?), do your first flight thing, and then go straight into the reception. not sure if I would like being at someone’s wedding the entire day. that’s just me though.
Post # 5
I think its fine, I would be happy to take some time to do whatever, and change and NAP! giving yourself more time is better than trying to squeeze it all in.
Post # 6
I thought it sounded long until you said it was a destination wedding. Everyone who is there has set aside that entire day for YOU! I think it’s nice that you’re keeping them entertained all day (and giving them time to nap)!
Post # 7
@EffieTrinket: Good point. I am FINE if the luncheon ends sooner – then people get an even longer break while we do photos and set up for the reception. I think I’ll assume it’s going to end earlier – though I should say that we are doing the toasts during the luncheon – so it MIGHT go 2 hours without it seeming too long. But basically, if by 1 pm people are DONE, we’ll wrap it up and send them on their way so they can relax before the reception party.
Thanks for the input.
Post # 8
@Crindy: Thanks – that’s what I was thinking. That it would be a better day if we did the weddingy stuff early, took a BREAK after all that hoopla, then let them relax in the afternoon – then just PARTY from 6 – 10.
Hope I don’t lose the “momentum” of the day that way – but I think it will work out ok
Thanks so much for your thoughts on this.
Post # 9
@strawbs: Thanks – does it matter that it’s a destination wedding? Like if you were in Hawaii – would you rather have the morning to yourself, or a break in the middle of the day?
Post # 10
I think if people are flying all the way to Hawaii to be at your wedding, they must be awfully close to you, and I think if they’re that close to you then they wouldnt mind spending that much time at your wedding. I personally wouldnt mind.
Post # 11
I think the gap is fine. The lunch probably isn’t necessary especially since you are having the full reception later. It would be different if people had no where to go but since everyone is staying close by the gap will be nice to go and enjoy Hawaii and get ready for the party. I think it all sounds like an amazing celebration but if you are worried about too much time and/or money I would just not do the lunch with everyone, maybe just the Bridal Party and parents before pictures.
Post # 12
Thanks – not too worried about the money. We’re not doing a full dinner, since we’re doing a nice luncheon, (we’re still feeding them, just not as fancy for the dinner – indian food – some of which we are actually cooking ourselves. 🙂
Anyway – I was just worried people would be like, “Um, what do we DO for 4 hours?” But I know myself, personally – I LOVE the idea of having a break in the middle of the day, after we’re married – to spend with HIM – and to get ready for the party . . . so yeah. Here goes nothin’. Ha ha.
Post # 13
@allyfally: Thanks. That’s true. They ARE lovely people who will mostly be ok with whatever we do.
That being said – is your wedding date really 2017? That’s amazing! Ha ha – You are smart. Congrats.
Post # 14
@missysahib: lol, No! We dont have a set date yet (we’re probably eloping) so I just picked a random far off day.