Post # 1
I am a little emotional right now. I am not that kind of person who wants approval from others but cant help but feel saddened. When my longterm boyfriend proposed both our families had been going through different problems and no one aknowledged that we are engaged. I mean I get that they had other things on their mind but a simple congrats would not have hurt. I got over that but now, it is the house buying process. My FI and I have been saving alot to be able to purchase a house and be able to pay for the wedding (2015). I told my parents a few weeks ago that we plan to get everything sorted by Dec no reactions at all. Now this morning my sister (who is younger than me and been going out with her bf for about 6months) told them that they are looking up houses, they were delighted.
I was left speechless ! I am happy for her and everything but it hurts that whenever I have some good news no one is there to be happy for me
Post # 3
well being i dont know you at all i cant really be happy for you, but im in your shoes, my FI has 3 other siblings and everyone woo’s over them but when it comes to my FI and i , “whats your name again”….ugh, his mother hates me, his father dosent really like the idea im so opinionated- i dont like how everyone drinks and i hate smoking – i told my FI in front of his family he would have a better chance of me forgiving him if i found him in bed with another woman then he would with a cig, in his hand/mouth. (my dad died from smoking related issues- i wont love someone else who wants to kill themselves slowly like my father did i wont deal with it) so for that i think i have be shunned from his family, in photos they always tell me now in front or you stand in the back and most of the time im chopped out of the photo- his one brothers was getting engaged around the time we did and his FI asked me over and over “did you get your spot light yet are you happy now because we want to get engaged and dont want to step on your toes bla bla…” i didnt really care if they got engaged the same day, but just the way she put it made me feel like crap and then everyone was so SO excited for them to get engaged they wanted to do a engagement party for them and everything for us its like “well its about time”—my FI and I started dating the same week as his brother and his SO, so its not like we were dating years and years and its about time…we get no love from the family…sometimes i like it because im now not obligated to do anything for them because they always seam to neglect me in something, so “i never knew it was her birthday, sorry i didnt make my awesome cake for you” i get to say with total sarcasm….ha… oh lord can i vent about them…if i could take my FI far far away i would be so happy… but really its cool about looking for a house,we were doing that aswell but we put it on hold because we have to fix his house to sell it and the wedding its just a bit much rite now…
Post # 4
@meij: You just have to be happy for yourself, to put things in perspective: you’re getting a new house and you’re getting married. Not much to be sad about. If you depend on others for your happiness, you will be constantly disappointed. Congrats on the new house and your upcoming wedding 🙂
Post # 5
@housebee: thank you 🙂 I just wanted to share my happy with them but no reaction. Well life goes on.
On a side note I just told my best friend that we are looking at houses etc and she was trilled, she started searching online and sending my tips so I guess I have some one to divide it with (apart from FI of course)
Post # 6
@AndysCraftsNmore: Yeah sometimes it sucks. His family are usually great and i do not have any FMIL issues she loves me like her daughter. I guess that since in my culture engagements and weddings are a big deal and highly celebrated I expected more happy reactions.
Post # 7
@meij: I understand why your family wans’t over the moon excited about the engagement. If your wedding is a year and a half+ away, they probably won’t get excited until under the 1 year mark.
As nfar as houses that does suck because that is happening now. I am glad that your friend is excited, and hopefully your family comes around once you are in the process of buying the house and moving in.
Post # 8
@meij: Aww sorry about that *hugs* don’t know what to do, my family is often that way, my sister is the center of everyone’s attention. It stinks to feel that way but I think it’s normal. I just focus on FI and I and make the best of it! He is my new family! 🙂