Feeling Overwhelmed

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@hornergirle:  Each of these things on their own aren’t a disaster, but collectively they do add to the stress.

Hair/makeup: If she says anything again, remind her that it was her suggestion that she get another styist for the two girls.

Pastor: easy one. Just go to church. I think pastors/ministers have a right to expect that a couple asking him to marry them in the church, want more than just a photo op.

Flower girl: How long has your FI been divorced? His little girl may still have some feelings about her Dad getting married again. She may feel that participating in your wedding by being the flower girl is somehow being disloyal to her Mom. These feelings could be totally subconscious. Nevertheless, you can easily buy a dress the week of the wedding if she decides to participate. Have the basket, petals, whatever you are going to use, ready but don’t bring it out until after she says yes.

Dress: They may have been concerned that you are going to lose more weight and they would have to redo the aterations if done too early. Normal operating procedure.

Don’t let these things stress you out. None of them will matter in the long run.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hornergirle:  I think julies1949  is right and that they aren’t all terrible issues but when put together can add up to one big headache. Each problem is fairly easy to solve and I think you will be fine once you take time to breathe. Just tackle each problem one by one and you will see things get done!

hairstylist: it was her suggestion and if she doesn’t feel up to it then let her know that you think it would be better to not put her under that stress, or you for that matter!

pastor: just go to the chuch because it won’t take that much time and most people that aren’t religious zone out anyway (you can esily do the same). Be prepared to be asked religious questions during your meetings with him though!

flower girl: prepare incase she changes her mind but don’t feel hurt! I am sure she has a reason for this, even if she can’t really explain what it is!

dress: I am sure everything they are doing is normal procedure, they must have some system figured out after all the brides they have served


Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

There are places you can get married that are set up with an aisle and all that. I think it’s weird to get married in a church if it doesn’t mean anything to you.

I would tell the original stylist to pack sand and find someone who will cause you less stress.

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