(Closed) feeling overwhelmed finding a venue!

posted 8 years ago in New York City
Post # 3
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

What kind of venue are you looking for?  What do you want the feel of your wedding to be? How formal?

Post # 4
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

http://www.nymag.com/weddings is the BEST resources for venues!  that is where I started my search. also if you give a little bit more of what you’re looking for, I can try to help, I did a lot of research on nyc and westchester weddings

Post # 5
2196 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I agree–the nymags.com website is awesome.

Post # 6
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

As you said you JUST got engaged! I made the mistake of thinking I had to do everything asap, so I did and I stressed myself out way to much! You have time, you will find a place. Ask around, look into photographers you like and see where those people had there receptions and then price it from that. Just take a deep breath and have fun with it! Don’t stress!

Post # 7
941 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

First of all, I agree that taking things a step at a time is good.  πŸ™‚  I’ve been engaged for all of three weeks (woohoo!) and have been on go mode since…and thouogh it’s been fun, it’s also been pretty exhausting.

Anywho, that all being said, I think one of the great/challenging things about NYC and the surrounding area is the wide variety of places you can get married.  And maybe before you choose a venue, do consider what you’re looking for.  Some things to think about:

1.  Inside or outside?

2.  Season?  (that may determine inside or outside)

3.  Urban or country setting?  (that could help you decide on city vs. westchester).

4.  Area with lots of people or area that could be private?  (this would probably also be influenced by the inside/outside.  Like, a central park wedding could be lovely, and could also be full of strange people peeping in).

5.  What parts of NYC do you like and if in NYC what burrough would you want it to be in?  (assuming you have it in NYC).  There are some very nice places in Brooklyn & Queens that could be cheaper than Manhattan…though they’re also not Manhattan.  I know someone who got married in the Brooklyn Botanical Gardens and really loved it. 

6.  What kind of vibe do you want the reception to have?  Fancy/upscale, laid back, easy going, mixture, etc.  The place you choose could force you to fall into one of thoe categories, OR could let you build around it.

I’d imagine there are many more questions to ask yourself…but I think, first figure out what kind of wedding you want…then you can figure out where πŸ™‚

Oh and most importantly, congratulations!!!!!! πŸ˜€

Post # 8
46 posts
  • Wedding: September 2010

My friend just told me of a golf course in the Bronx/Westchester that is very reasonable. Better prices than Manhattan and Brooklyn. I will ask her.

Post # 9
10 posts
  • Wedding: July 2011

Oh man… my fiance and I tried to find a place in the NYC area for 120 guests that wouldn’t hit over $20,000 (just for the venue/food!!) and we couldn’t find a single place. If $20K is the max you’ll spend for the whole thing, you really have to think outside the box.

Most lofts that rent are about $7-8K, but you’ll have to get creative with food. Caterers will be $130+ per person, so you’ll have to either get a friend to cook or just do dessert and dancing somewhere, which could work. The Foundry in LIC is $10K to rent, but fits your amt. of people perfectly (it was too small for us, and we wanted catering so we would have gone over budget). But you don’t have to get a caterer there and could just bring in desserts and an iPod for music.

For our part, we are going back to Oregon (my homestate) for our wedding. We realized that we wanted certain things and we weren’t willing to compromise and/or cut more people in order to save money. Good luck!

Post # 11
3526 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Google. Google. Google.

Type in weddings with key words of what you’re looking for.

Stalk photographer, caterer, vendor sites. They often blog about locations they have worked at. That was a great source for me when searching.

Post # 12
1566 posts
Bumble bee

We have a similar guest list and budget, and I was also very overwhelmed by looking for a venue in NYC. We eventually decided to get married in Philadelphia, which made such a huge difference in finding a venue + not feeling stressed out by the high prices. If it makes sense, I would encourage you to look outside of NYC (Philly made sense for us b/c it was a central place for our guests to congregate and more convenient for them than NYC.)

When we were still looking in NYC, it seemed like we had two options on our budget

(1) Reception hall w/ traditional wedding dinner in Queens … not my dream wedding, but I do know some people who went that route and were happy with it.

(2) Afternoon tea. The two places we were considering are Lady Mendl’s and Alice’s Tea Cup. They are not traditional wedding locations, so no wedding markup. The downside is no dancing and a smaller space.

Good luck, I hope you can find the venue of your dreams πŸ™‚

Post # 13
21 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012


Post # 14
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s totally possible… Sara Meltzer Gallery.. cost only $2K to rent out the two floor gallery all day and night for our 240 person engagement party….   add in caterer, furniture rental (cocktail hour type food, not a seated dinner) we spent under $20K…



PM me if you want more dets.

Post # 15
41 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

there are an amazing amount of gorgeous places in queens (i know, i have seen them all) where you can totallly stay within your budget–check out douglaston manor, verdi’s, leonards, queens botanical gardens

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