Post # 1
Today is just one of those days when I’m feeling so overwhelmed with wedding planning! I love my Fiance but he is driving me a little crazy lately He keeps asking me about little details for the wedding, asking if I have decided on this or that, like today he was asking me to decide what kind & how many rose petals we need for the ceremony….we have 8 months to go! And pushing me to pick a cake design, ect…I have only asked him to do one thing: pick a DJ. He made a few calls, but still no progress, no one in mind that is within our budget & when I suggest someone off Craig’s List I got an instant “no”….he didn’t even know anything about the DJ except the price! He assumed b/c they had a low price they would be no good, but we can only afford $500 anyway….And on top of this, we spend SOOO much time with his family I feel like I’m going to scream! We spend almost EVERY DAY at his house (he lives with his parents & little brother) and whenever we’re at mine (I rent with my brother & sister) he seems so uncomfortable that I feel guilty…And no matter how much time I spend with his family, I still do not feel at ease (his mother can be very over bearing! Don;t even get me started on her “suggestions” for the wedding)…Ahhh! OK, I just had to get that out. Any other Bees out there feeling like this? How do you deal?
Post # 3
I have about a month and 1/2 left to go til I get married. There is still soooooo much to do. I am freaking out! I’ve planned this wedding almost entirely by myself. So the last minute scramble, is well… too much. I have had little crying jags, late at night when I am covered in DIY projects, and thinking what else I need to do. But it is getting better, because all I can think. Well we are almost there! Almost.. don’t get me wrong planning has been fun. But sometimes you get a little overwhelmed. Just remember the fun stuff!
Post # 4
It’s going to be ok! How you’re feeling is totally reasonable–wedding planning is a big roller coaster and some days are better than others. Every once in a while I find myself having minor panic attacks about how MUCH there is to do. At that point, I sit down and make a list. And then over the next couple of days I start doing the things off the list and cross each one off as I go. This is extraordinarily therapeutic for me. Sometimes they’re small things…example: at one point I started freaking out about the venue running entirely off generators and how that would work with our caterer, lighting, and DJ and I was feeling super overwhelmed about how to figure out all the logistics of powering each of those things. So I sat down in the middle of Borders and made a list on the back of a receipt of the people I needed to contact–my venue manager, my caterer, the DJ, and my tent rental guy to ask them all what kind of power they would need and what kind of power was available from the generator at the venue (I’m getting married at the old country home of a former President and it’s such a historic location that they weren’t allowed to actually wire the building for electricity). The next day I emailed each of them, got the information I needed, crossed each item off the list, and was all better. This has worked for me each and every time I’ve freaked out. You’re going to be great and your wedding will be beautiful, and you’ll just tackle each part of it bit by bit. Let your Fiance know that he’s stressing you a bit (tell him gently), and I’m sure he’ll relax on the details. (I feel you on the LOTS of time with family thing–my Future Mother-In-Law is staying with us right now. She’s great and I love her, but no alone time with Fiance for 5 days is a little bit of a bummer.) Lots of hugs!
Post # 5
Ok, first I gotta say you’re getting married on my little sis’s birthday… congrats! Woo!
Second, I would talk to him about how you feel guilty that he feels weird about coming over. Maybe he can tell you why and you can alleviate the problem? I think it’s fair that you could split your time between the places!
Post # 6
Thank you for the support ladies! I feel much better knowing that their are others out there that can relate and offer advice