Post # 1
So ever since last summer I have been doing a lot of research and “planning” for my wedding. A week ago was the actual proposal and now that I am engaged I do not know where to start. I have a good idea of what I want our wedding to look and feel like but now I am overwhelmed with where to start.
Also, I am stressed out because even though we plan to marry after I finish school next May we can not set a date because I have no idea if my FI will even be able to make it. He is newly enlisted in the air force so a lot can change for him in the next year (he is still in tech school training). So I guess my question is what can I do in the meantime before I know a date? Where do you even start? The pressure of making final decisions is getting to me! Advice appreciated 🙂
Post # 3
Congratulations! I started with my venue first because I felt like that would determine a lot. Then, I picked what flowers I wanted and got my dress. Don’t stress too much! Just start looking around a pictures, magazines and that kind of thing and see what jumps out at you. Good luck!
Post # 4
Don’t rush this! You just got engaged and you need to take the time to properly enjoy it. One of the things I disliked most intensely about my early wedding planning process is I felt rushed by my mother, who was already miles ahead of me. Take the time to adjust to being engaged, browse through bridal magazines and start getting an idea of what you like, and then work on the details later.
Post # 5
You just got engaged – congratulations! Take some time to bask in this happy time, and then when you’re ready, start browsing magazines and venues. Venue is probably the biggest thing that most brides start with first.
Post # 6
I third all the above advice. Congrats!
The first thing that we thought of was budget. That way, you’re not looking at stuff that you completely can’t afford. Next, just have fun looking at magazines and blogs and just pull all the pictures of weddings or events that you like. I would say, go for the “feel” of the event that you want and then pick your venue.
If you get overwhelmed, take a break from the planning completely.
Enjoy this time of being engaged. It does go by fast.
Post # 7
congrats! i would actually get an approximate headcount before you start looking at venues…you will need to know capacity restrictions, etc. i would make a “everyone we wish we could invite if money were no object” list, and then widdle it down from there.
Post # 8
I can imagine that your situation would be stressful. Not knowing where your fiance is going to be next year would definetely add to it. Maybe he can find out from his superiors what month would be his best bet to be available for your wedding and you guys can go from there. It is tough to start planning when you don’t have a set date but I definitely agree with the other girls when they suggest to start looking at magazines or have a look at dresses or flowers that you would like. These things don’t need a wedding date set in place. Maybe come up with a guest list as well.
I hope this helps.
Post # 9
@Mrs. Meowerson: That’s a really good point.
OP: We kind of made the mistake of finding the perfect venue and just assuming that the cap of 100 would be ample….it wasn’t. lol It meant that we had to cut guests for our single friends (which we really didn’t want to do), etc. I would definitely do what Ms.Meowerson suggests and figure out an idea of headcount before venue shopping.
Post # 10
Thank you everyone for the great advice! I am going to really try to just take more time to just enjoy the engagement and collect more inspiration. It is like Jenniferk6 said though, my mom is way ahead of me! She keeps asking tons of questions but then again this is the woman who plans my little sisters birthday parties a full year in advance haha.
I think I am going to have a skype date with my fiance soon to talk about the guest list. I think that can also help me with estimating costs in order to set a budget. 🙂