Post # 1
Hello Fellow Bees!
I just need to get this off of my chest. My wedding is 10 months away, and I am already stressing out. The days seem to fly by with out warning. I have the important things booked like the venue and photographer. I am still waiting on the music (ceremony and band) to contact me back. I have my colors picked out and I have selected my BM’s. I need to go to the florist, finalize our guest list so I can order invites, select my dress, and decide what favors are needed.
I have no idea why I do not have these things done. I keep putting everthing off, and before you know it, another week has gone by.
I know this sounds crazy, but thank you for listening!
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2008 - A garden wedding followed by a tented reception on Mr. Hummingbird's father's property.
I totally understand how you’re feeling because I went through a similiar thing myself with our planning. There seems to be such a push from everywhere to get everything done right away that it’s easy to feel overwhelmed.
The best thing we’ve done is to make a schedule for our remaining five months as to what still needs to be done. We’ve broken it down into months, trying to keep each month with a reasonable number of things in it so that we can still have a life outside of wedding planning.
So far, things are going pretty well in that we finished up everything we had to do in January a week early.
Anyway, good luck and try not to stress! You’ve still got time. 🙂
Post # 4
Oh – I know exactly how you feel. If you look at everything at once, it is totally overwhelming. I have just been trying to tackle one thing at a time – dress, then shoes, then STDs, then… the other problem is that it goes on and one. You get one big thing accomplished and there is still a huge list.
It sounds to me like you are doing okay though… unless you want a really ornate dress, you have another month or three to play with (I just ordered mine last weekend, and our date is in July). I think we will be playing with the guest list until we actually mail the invitations. Since you have to order them in sets of 25, just make sure you have a few extras for last minute additions. And see if you can’t get someone (mom, sister, girlfriend) to take responsibility for some things. My mom has been great about doing some of the running around while I am at work. My sis is super supportive in looking at ideas and finding ideas (she lives several states away). My FI is really good at helping with envelopes, stamps, assembly of favor boxes. If you let people help you out a little, you won’t feel like you’re all alone trying to accomplish this mountain of stuff.
And then just pick one thing a week and try to get it done – even if its just setting up an appt to try on dresses. And once that’s done, give yourself a couple of days off from worrying before you tackle the next thing (and the next thing and the next thing…)
Post # 5
Your guest list does not need to be finalized and invitations ordered for months. MONTHS. Neither do favors. You’re perfectly fine for ten months out. If you were at this point with only three months, I’d say panicking would be in order.
It seems like a lot now, but trust me, once you get the florist and DJ hired, everything will calm down and then you can just chip away at the fun stuff. Heck, I went six months without talking to any of my major vendors–hired them in February or March for a wedding this February and then didn’t talk to them again until September or October, and even then they were like, "We really don’t need to talk until January."
Post # 6
Take a deep breath and then make yourself a timeline. Start from a week before you wedding date and work your way backwards. Decide what you want to have done by a deadline, then give yourself a few days on top of it, so instead of a deadline like July 7th, give yourself July 1st – July 7th.
I wouldn’t worry about finalizing the guest list either…and not to alarm you…but stragglers might work their way in with how long you have. Make finding favors something fun…the sky is the limit for what you want right now. Then as you get closer, start narrowing your choices, and then give yourself a deadline to choose.
Post # 7
Thanks guys! I do feel better! My friends that have been married keep telling me it will all come together and when you look back, you wonder why you were so stressed. It feels good to let it out though!
I keep having this dream that we have uninvited guests and there is no place for them to sit (we are having a seating chart) Has anyone experienced this?
Post # 8
Yeah, it’s the stress. One of my favorite parts of an old Knot magazine I still have was wedding nightmares. One of the glas dreamt she had a see-through dress, neon green underwear and a chimpanzee instead of a bouquet. I think once you get a hold of what’s stressing you out, the dreams will decrease/desist.