(Closed) Feeling really down…family issues/vent :/

posted 4 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I get it. I totally get it. A lot of times on the bee you see stories of how the inlaws are crappy and the brides family always comes though. Not so much in my case. Counting my blessings isn’t always easy. 

Maybe you could call your brother whose wife wants to fly and just talk to him about how much it would mean to have him there? I’m not sure if you can maybe help your other brother pay. I mean maybe they can come even if their SOs can’t. 

As for your mom, you just have my sympathy. I get it, but I don’t have any good advice. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m sorry to hear about your mother. Substance abuse is such a heartbreaking thing. I won’t go into my personal story except to say that I suspect substance abuse as a big reason why my mother hasn’t always been available for me in my life, either. It sucked seeing some of my good friends plan everything with their mothers and know I wouldn’t have that.

I am also really sorry about your brothers. I wish your SIL would be a bit more flexible so that your brother could come, and I’m just glad you have some perspective for your other brother and his wife that can’t afford it.

Will you be having some of your friends from CA be coming?

To put it in perspective, as long as the two of you show up you have a wedding. The less people that come the more time you get to have with each guest and your hubby. You’ll still have cake and music and vows. You’ll still get dressed up and be lovely and see your hubby all dressed up and handsome.

People have small weddings all the time, and they mean just as much and can be just as much fun as fun in the end.

Post # 5
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Unfortunately life throws us for loops. I’ve felt like that recently too with all of my wedding plans getting thrown out with no thought as to how that would make me feel.

But it will get better. Things will come together and work out as they were supposed to. No matter what happens, you will enjoy your day even if it is just you and your husband-to-be. 

I hope everything works out for you!

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