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    farmersdaughter    June 26, 2010  

    This is really more of a rant than anything. I'm feeling so guilty right now about how much money we are spending on the wedding. Both sets of parents are contributing, as well as my FI and I, and I think everyone has reached their breaking point. We've been planning for 18 months, and I feel like with every month that has gone by, we've added more and more expenses...and with the wedding just over 2 weeks away, I know there will be so many last-minute things. I've always been an overly frugal person (I NEVER spend money, and am so big on saving and staying out of debt), but somehow I've let this thing get a little out of control. For example, when my in-laws gifted us $5K (SO generous) after we got engaged for our honeymoon, instead of being practical about it, we let our heads go off in the clouds and spent every penny of it on the honeymoon...when we totally could have spent less, and dedicated some of that money towards our travel expenses to the wedding, etc. 

    *Sigh* I know this happens to most people, and believe me - we've done ridiculous amounts of DIY and have cut so many corners to keep in under control - I'm just realizing how much money is actually going into this one day despite all our efforts, and it makes me so nervous. My fiance has credit card debt (he's not as good at managing $ as I am...) and I'm going back to school in August, and I'm starting to wish I had done things differently so we're in a better spot financially after getting married.

     
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    Angela83    June 2011  

    I know how you feel, I have been feeling guilty about the amount of money we're going to spend.  In your case though, what's done is done.  Try not to feel bad about it.  You say that you are frugal, so I am sure you will be able to get a handle on your finances soon after the wedding.

    As far as the 5K and honeymoon... screw being practical!  It's your honeymoon!  Don't feel guilty about that... you deserve to go on a great vacation.

     
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    missjyc    September 18, 2010   macomb, michigan

    totally know how you feel. we're in the same boat, my parents are paying, his parents are paying, and both of us are paying!

    we've def cut corners on small DIY projects... and worked with a lot of "at home" vendors and lucked out that our friends are dj/videographer that are doing the jobs for free...

    it adds up a wedding for 200+ people in MI :'(

    $30k (including our honeymoon)...

     

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