- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
Trying not to let it get to me, but Im just feeling so let down by my family.
First off, most of my family are jehovas witnesses.
So, to make them comfurtable, I went thru SOOO much trouble trying to get a ceremony venue that was indoors and NOT a church(theyre weird about going to churches other then their own, and not being a witness myself, Im not going to one of theirs.)
Last week my Grandma told my mom, (after multiple times trying to get ahold of her) that she will not be coming to my wedding… because my Dad will be there. He use to be a witness. And she thinks its bad to be in company with ex-witnesses. This was a huge let down, and very hurtful to me. I wanted her to be there so bad.
My only family that is coming is my aunt(whos not even related, shes my uncles ex wife) and her kids(my cousins) and their children. Also 3 aunts on my dads side. THATS IT.
My mom, dad, sister and brother are coming as well.
But I have a BIG family, nobody even cared enough to send me a RSVP no.(they where pre stamped too, grr!) They just completely ignored me.
Theyre not even ALL in that religon, I honestly have NO clue what I could have done to be treated like I dont even Exist. It really REALLY hurts.
And I just feel so ashamed that, I have such a small number of people there for me. its almost embaressing. I know I should be grateful, and I am! I guess in the end I only need the people there that really love me. I guess I just thought my family stilled cared about me, and this is just a huge slap in the face. :/
On op of that, the minimum to book our reception is 120 people, and we have to pay for that many no matter if they show or now.
We’re having about 70 people. So we’re paying almost TWICE as much for this wedding as we should. (we actually over invited too, 180 people!!)
Also upset that I went thru so much trouble for them and it was for nothing, I could have had a cute church ceremony. it would have been SO much easier.
On top of all that, I dont even feel supported by my own mom here lately.
My MIL thru my bridal shower for me in another state cuz none of my family would. And my mom and sister ended up not even coming, because my brothers friends mom passed away a few days before that. I had NONE of my own family at my shower. Not that I dont understand how big a deal a death is, And I do feel very very sad for them. but, she had plenty of time around that to visit, and the funeral was a couple days after we got home. She tryed to find excuses a few times not to come, but she finally got a good one.
I feel so unsupported. I know the wedding is going to be a great day, and I should focus on what its really about. I love my fiance so much. but things have just went so sour. Am I being a big baby?
Sorry I just needed to vent 🙁