Post # 1
FI is currently in school in a very demanding program. As in, he has full class load, is a tutor, and has clinical placement. His clinical placement rotates between night and day shifts, so he is constantly going from a night shift to a full day of classes, then tutoring and then home to finally go to bed aroun 7pm. He has been doing this for 3 months and is burnt out to say the least. He also commutes 2.5 hours round trip most days.
Problem is, there is no way around this, he just has to do it but it is taking a toll on his mental health and our relationship. It is Friday night, and despite him sleeping in until 12 today, he is in bed at 9pm tonight because he said he is exhausted.
I don’t doubt it, its just sitting here on a Friday night, I am super lonely.
Nothing really can be done, just need some advice/support to get me through until Christmas when this madness should slow down.
Post # 3
Hello! My FI is a graduate students so I know for the most part how this goes. Although his schedule isn’t quite as nuts, there are certain times in the semester where things can get a little edgy. We’re also long distance so I can completely understand the lonely part. Are you new to the area? Do you have a network of friends that you can reach out to?
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2012 - Franklin Plaza
((hugs)) This sounds like such a difficult situation for both of you!! Do you have friends or family in the area? Hobbies? My husband works odd hours so I try to fill my free time with girls’ nights, dinner with my family or other various hobbies (blogging, going to the gym, etc). I know it’s rough and lonely, but try to keep yourself busy!!
Post # 5
Awww, I’m sorry sweetie! That definitely could make things rough, plus I bet he’s stressed and his stress is only making you feel worse!! I would just remember that this too shall passs: your fiance is working towards both of your futures and will hopefully have a great job soon! I’m mostly here for consolation, but if you wanted any sort of advice, I’d say maybe try to do something else to keep your mind off your fiance’s busyness (as it seems you aren’t very busy yourself)? Maybe try joining a book club, starting a blog, focusing on wedding planning, hanging out with friends more, a new hobby: I know when my fiance was in Ecuador and away for a few months, I started a blog, which really kept my mind off of it: just anything that will give you something to do. Good luck, and we’re here for you!