Post # 1
I guess it should have come as no surprise. My family is not the type to jump up and down with excitement over anything. As an example, when fiance and I got engaged I called my mom and she said, “It’s about time. Congrats. Anway, so I went grocery shopping today…”
We originally wanted to elope for financial reasons, and because we didn’t want a huge wedding.
My mom was upset, which came to a surprise because she has never showed much interest in the wedding. We decided to have a very small wedding of 5 attendants.
I went wedding dress shopping this past Saturday. My mom showed up 20 minutes late. All of the dresses I came out in she liked, but she kept making remarks about my breasts. I’m a busty gal and she kept making faces saying I was showing too much, etc. But…I can’t cut them off, or do anything about them, so it made the entire process less exciting. I’m now extremely self-conscious about this one thing I wasn’t worried about before.
We took pictures and I showed my best friend. I showed him my top 3 dress picks and he was very negative. He hated all of them and said they’re too princess-y, he doesn’t like the straps, or this, or that. He said, “Um…are these the options? Are you going to try some more on?”
I’m so sad and wish we had just eloped. I can’t believe the two people in my life that I expected to be more sensitive and supportive are being so negative. It makes me want to cry.
I guess this is more of a vent than anything. I just needed to get it off my chest.
Post # 3
@petalpetal: Well they were probably trying to be supportive in a way. They probably want you to look the best on your big day and felt that these dresses were not the one. I would have no problem telling a friend that their dress choice didn’t suit them. I am thankful to my mum, sister and BFF for talking me out of the style of dress I wanted because I would have looked like a dolt on my wedding day. I was so sure it suited me and that the style worked on my figure. Yeah I was wrong.
Post # 4
@petalpetal: If you want to elope, elope. You deserve to feel the way you want to feel on your wedding day. If you want to be princessy, go for it. If you want to be casual with your fiance on a beach somewhere, do it.
Life is too short to be spent bending over backwards for other people. This is one of the times in your life that you truly get to be selfish and do what YOU want.
BTW, this applies to having a wedding and choosing a gown as well. If you want to have a wedding and wear the dress you picked out, go for it. Your day, your choice! And I’m sure you’ll look great. 🙂
Post # 5
@sailor_girl: Life is too short to be spent bending over backwards for other people. This is one of the times in your life that you truly get to be selfish and do what YOU want.
ITA. The percentage of brides, who are happy to giving into other peoples desires, seem far lower than those that stick reasonably to their own standards.
Post # 6
@petalpetal: First dont worry about the boobs. Guys love boobs. Your FI will be thrilled. Moms are always more conservative.
Also I dont know about you but Ive tried on at least 30 dresses and havent found “”the one””” yet. Maybe you just havent found that special style yet.
Post # 7
Awe sweetie! Don’t let anyone rain on your parade. Remember that YOU are going to be the one to wear the dress, YOU are going to be the one to look back at the picutre so its your opinion that really matters.
Wear what your feel beautlful in.
Can we see some of the dresses?