Feeling really upset with my sister

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Have you said anything to her? I agree that she’s not being considerate, but if you don’t tell her how you’re feeling than you really lose the right to be upset.

Post # 4
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1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think so, yes.  It sounded like it was a sister trip planned and she is choosing instead to go with her guy, and that hurts.  I have two sisters, and my one sister has done this to me, chosen her guy over me in certain circumstances, and it really sucks.

You have every right to be upset, can you talk to her about it?

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Deejayelle: I suggest you just go without her on the dates you originally booked. You can’t change the date, end of story, no negotiating. She can go with you or go at a different time with her husband, it’s up to her. Enjoy your time with your overseas sister, whatever happens.

Post # 7
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865 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think once a person is above the age of 21 – and I’m being generous there, I really think 18 – unless they have some serious medical condition, they should be able to travel anywhere on their own. 

I travelled to, and spent 3 months, in Italy on my own when I was 16.  I’ve also done the 26 hour flight to Australia from the UK, and back, on my own about 9 times.  Time before last, I left my husband for 3 months when I went back to Australia to see my mother.

Sorry to say, but your sister is being childish and pathetic.  I’d go on the dates that you had originally arranged.  If she can’t cope without her husband for a few days, it really isn’t your problem and your plans shouldn’t suffer because of it. 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

The other issues aside, I don’t think traveling on your own should be a big deal for either you OR your BIL unless there is some sort of safety issue (e.g., a woman traveling alone in Saudi Arabia).

Post # 9
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1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have 2 sisters and I would be really annoyed and hurt if one of them essentially cancelled a planned sister trip bc she couldn’t spend 4 days without her husband. Pathetic.

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