- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
FIs parents and siblings have never been interested in FIs life unless its to criticize what he is doing/has done.
We are now 5 days out from our wedding and im starting to become angry and hurt and frustrated with how they have treated mine anf FIs engagement, wedding, life together. FI and i fought about this last night and I told him that the only doubt i have ever had was because of his family.
His father doesnt believe in marriage, and thinks its a waste of money and time and that people should just live common law, so he has never had any interest in the wedding which is fine (still rude IMO but whatever) but he complains about everything we do. When we bought our house he complained that it was a waste of money and its cheaper to rent and is still complaining about renovations we plan to do. He complained about the breed of dogs we own because he doesnt like big dogs (we have a lab x golden retriever and a pure bred border collie) and that big dogs arent kid friendly. He complains that we are petting married before his eldest daughter (FIs half sister) because she was engaged first (she has been engaged now 11 years and still no inkiling of a wedding, sorry im not waiting for something that isnt even in the works)
FIs older half sister and half brother on his dads side are just oblivious to the fact that FI exists pretty much, ignored phone calls, text messages and emails when we asked for addresses so we could send invitations, and due to that arent coming to our wedding… which is FIs fault apparently and FFIL complains about this.
His little full sister is a selfish brat who tries to make our wedding all about her, and is only coming because FI threatened to never speak to her again if she didnt. She RSVPd no because we didnt invite her 5 minute boyfriend (before all the plus 1 protesters come on here, they have been dating for less then a year, dont live together, arent engaged and she is not 18) which FFIL complains about. We had to find her transportation because she doesnt want to have to drive because its too far (20 minute drive) which FFIL complains about.
She demanded that FI go and see her for her birthday on saturday (the weekend before our wedding) and when he said that he wont stay long because we have so much to do she replied “I think my birthday should be more important your wedding is still a week away” I have no problem going there for her birthday but not for lunch and then stay until after dinner.
On FIs birthday she bought him a photoframe that had “my family” engraved with photos of him with his parents and siblings and with our dogs but none of me. They have photos of FI and I together and the photos the got of the dogs were off of our facebook where there are plenty more of us together.
She also showed him what she plans to wear a all white dress with a silver beaded brooch. I told FI whatever but she wont be getting any photos with us. (though I kinda wanted to explode)
FMIL is ill and is dependant mostly on FFIL and doesnt speak up because then he treats her like dirt so she typically just puts up and shuts up. I have always felt sorry for her and believed that she was actually excited to see her first son get married. but she booked in a transfusion for thursday (2 days before our wedding) and is now saying that she doesnt know if she will come because it depends how she feels afterwards and wont know untill saturday – so im struggling with seat plans and am furious that she booked it so close before and wont reschedule until monday.
She is given the option of dates and times for her transfusion, its needed but can be done between the 5th and the 12th.
When FI went to his parents house for FSIL birthday the only question they asked was “why didnt you organise cars and parking for us” thats it only mention about our wedding from his parents.
im just really annoyed – just a stressed bride venting I guess