Post # 1
I think I just need a bit of a splurge. So waiting has really been on my mind over the last week or so, mostly because we have both turned 23 this week, and MrWigeon mentioned before about wanting to do it by the time we are 24. So my mind is now in overdrive thinking of when it could be this year. We’ve got a few exciting things happening this year anyway, I’ve been dreaming about it a lot and yesterday I saw that somebody I don’t even know got engaged inn the snow. Cue internal envy.
I want to talk to MrWigeon about it as I feel like I’m going to explode. But I don’t want to put pressure on him especially with our anniversary coming up. However, he’s told me before that he notices when I don’t talk about it for a while, and would rather I got it all out than stress out. He’s also said that he needs enough time to plan it; I once said that I can’t ever gauge what you think about it and his reply was ‘how do you know I haven’t given it any thought?’
Am I just getting worked up for no reason? How can I relax about it? I’m trying to occupy myself but my brain just wanders.
Thanks in advance ladies 🙂
Post # 3
Hope you’re alright, personally I reckon you should talk to SO (I love that you called him MrWigeon) because I think he’ll be interested to know what goiing on in your mind especially something so important to you, maybe he’ll be able to put your mind at rest. I can see why snow proposal would make you envious, it does me just reading it. sounds romantic! 🙂
From what your SO is saying it seems positive signs that he’ll be proposing this year at some point.
Post # 4
I know what it’s like to wait and wait and be apprehensive about bringing it up but also want to bash him over the head with a clue-by-four. I mostly vented my frustration to my girlfriends and made secret wedding boards on Pinterest. He did propose eventually and of course it was worth the wait, despite all the external pressure. (I’m 30 and live in a country that thinks women are past their best-by date after 25!)
Post # 6
@faeriehazel: LOL, clue-by-four I love it!!
@LittleWigeon: I say be open with him about it, if he expressed that he wanted you to talk about it. I am in the same boat. SO told me something very similar, but I feel soooo weird talking to him about it, because I don’t want to look like a spazz, but it’s nice to have the option.
@faeriehazel: I totally have a secret wedding board on Pintrest.
Post # 7
Ahh, I love you, fellow waiting bees! 🙂
@LittleWigeon – totally sympathize with the pangs that shoot right to your heart when you see other people getting engaged. I have great hopes that you’ll have an amazing proposal at some point this year.
@faeriehazel – The clue-by-four is what I’m wishing desparately was appropriate to deploy…that term is my new favorite! And I have a secret Pinterest wedding/engagement board, too! 🙂
Post # 8
@LittleWigeon: Hugs to you! Waiting is just the pits sometimes right? Men are so cryptic sometimes, must be in their DNA! I would talk to him about how you are feeling. If he expressed that he wants you to tall about it, I would just bring it up with him. He sounds a lot like my guy with the planning, at least you know he will plan something special! It sure sounds like something will be happening this year! And umm yeah totally jealous of a snowy proposal… Yours will be a million times better though!
I have no clue what a clue-by-four is… But I could also bash my guy on thr head sometimes myself!
Post # 9
@PenguinLove hello lovely 🙂
Thanks so much for your replies ladies. I decided to take your advice and have a chat with Mr Wigeon last night; we were talking about house stuff so it came up fairly naturally. I’m so pleased that I did 🙂
Here’s the long and short of it: he said that 18 months to a year ago he couldn’t really understand why I seemed so set on it, and that whenever I brought the subject up it was the same things each time. But now he says that he gets it a bit more. I asked him if anything was holding him back and he said nothing really, but he wanted it to happen in the right moment. The only thing was he’s worried that it’s been so long now that it’s expected and won’t be as much of a surprise, but I’ve tried to assure him that however he does it will be amazing.
I then brought up how he had previously said he’d like to do it by the time we’re 24 (next January), and that if it’s not going to happen this year I’d rather he just say. He said that there’s a good chance of it happening this year, but he doesn’t want to promise in case for some reason it doesn’t happen. He also seemed to think that getting married when we are 25 was reasonable.
Feels like such a weight off my shoulders! So I might be that I’ll still be waiting a while but at least we know where each other stands on it a little clearer.
Thank you all again 🙂 x
Post # 10
Had a lovely snow day today and talked to OH about engagements and he said once he’s out of university as it’s the only thing stopping him and asked for my ring size again. 🙂
glad that you’re feeling better about it, I told you you’ll be feeling better talking to him. it seems positive stuff and I’m happy that you’ve got more of an idea/putting your mind at rest. it seems like your OH has got caught up in the idea of it being ‘perfect’ and got side tracked/worried over this.
Post # 11
That’s great to hear, very promising! Glad you had fun in the snow. We built an epic 6ft+ snowman on Friday but apparently his head has fallen off 🙁
I think you’re right about MrWigeon, he does seem a little hung up on it being ‘perfect’. I hope I’ve helped him realise that realistically nothing is perfect, but it can still be perfect for us. I hope that now I feel a little more at ease, he will relax a bit too.