(Closed) feeling rushed and disappointed

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
4433 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@00rubyred:  This is your life we’re talking about.  You shouldn’t feel selfish at all.  Don’t marry him soon just for military paperwork and because a couple told you too!  Everyone deserves the wedding experience that they see fit to have in their hearts!

For some, it could be a simple ok lets do this wedding…and for others, which seems like yourself…you want the whole thing…and have time to do it!

I say sit down with your FI and tell him how you feel…this will be one of many obsticales in your life and I think you need to be able to express this to him without hurting his feelings.

 

Post # 4
Member
1497 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think you guys should wait to get married until you’ve told people you’re engaged and have the ring and everything, but you can still do all of the engaged stuff and plan your wedding, even if you’re already married. We got married legally a month after getting married, but our wedding is just having a family dinner and pictures, so I planned it in 2 months. We’ll have been married 3 weeks at our wedding. (We decided to do the legal stuff before he started his job for paperwork’s sake).

Post # 5
Member
1719 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@00rubyred:  I don’t think it is selfish that you feel this way.   The DH is very practical so we had the same dilemna when we got engaged.  DH wanted to have a civil ceremony just in case he got deployed but I didn’t want to have a “covalidation” ceremony in a Catholic church later; I wanted one wedding with one anniversary.  In the end we had our wedding and the DH loved every bit of it.

I hope your FI sees your side of things.  Good luck!

Post # 7
Member
4433 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@00rubyred:  Good for you!!!! 🙂

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