Post # 1
We’ve done our first official bit of wedding planning (the recent engagement party was handled entirely by FMIL and FFIL, thankfully!) and cut our preliminary guest list from 188 to 95. I’m hoping we can get it cut down more in the weeks to come but I guess I shouldn’t really hold my breathe.
My FMIL talked about having a child free wedding and I’m not entirely sure of my feelings especially when I have a cousin that’s 10 years old that I’ve been fairly close to and that I know would be well behaved. Add to that, my FI now has a barely month old niece who I wouldn’t want to exclude unless her parents say that they’d rather have some time away.
So far though, planning a wedding in a foreign country where the seasons are flipped and the weather is even more unpredictable than it is where I came from makes for some rough planning. We’re having trouble settling on a date (it may be stupid but some uneven numbers give me an uneasy feeling) and sometimes I’m pretty sure that FMIL doesn’t like anything that my FI and I had agreed upon for our wedding. But more about the date, even if we planned a wedding towards the end of November, FMIL is adament that the weather is too cold and wet although that’s almost the beginning of summer here. I’m wary about December, January, February, and March because of the potential for my family to be snowed in in my home city. For the most part I’m trying not to think too much about it now because when I do it starts to stress me out and make me anxious.
Any advice about date choosing in the Southern Hemisphere would be greatly appreciated!!
Post # 4
Firstly well done on such a huge reduction on your numbers. That’s amazing. I don’t know much about the seasons in New Zealand but live in Australia. Maybe you could aim for the in between seasons so that you don’t hit the weather extremes in either country. I suppose it depends on what kind of venue you’re thinking of as well. If it’s completely indoors you won’t be as affected by the weather and that would give you some wiggle room. The pics I’ve seen of some winter weddings look amazing. Good luck!
Post # 5
We got married in NZ this year in Queenstown, and after having lived in NZ for the previous four years I would have to agree that a November wedding is risky because it’s just so rainy there. Even December is pretty hit and miss! I chose the second week of February and my whole family came over from Canada and the UK – no one got snowed in and the weather around and on the wedding was absolutely perfect. I would stick to January or February if you want a chance of it being sunny and warm, especially on the North Island!
Post # 6
Part of my problem is that I have a thing against indoor weddings. They just feel so closed in and so boring looking, even if you decorate it, IMO. I was also hoping for a late 2014 wedding because it would be spring. I know that Queenstown is a long way away from Taranaki so maybe therdiffer difference in the weather? I don’t know, I’ll probably hold off any further planning until January so I can have experienced the weather for myself.
I have to admit that trying to plan a wedding in a foreign country is really frustrating, almost to the point where I don’t care about having a wedding at all because every time I turn around I’m told that I “can’t” or I “must”. It’s making me feel like a bridezilla when I really thought that sort of behavior isn’t compatible with my personality.
Post # 7
Ugh the no kids thing is pretty tricky. However its your wedding not FMIL. I had 2 kids at my wedding both my nieces and both incredibly well behaved. Weather in NZ is NEVER guaranteed. It can poor in the middle of summer and a bit like today (officially winter) its beautiful! We got married on April 20 just north of Auckland. The day before was horrible, it was dark and pouring with rain and freezing cold. Our wedding day was beautiful, blue skies and warm!