- Posted 6 months ago by elliptical2013
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- 1 year ago
So I highly doubt that anyone on here is going through what I am going through. I have no one to talk to about anything… well no one who I want to talk to anyway.
So a very long story short, FI have been together 5 years. We have 2 kids. He is an alcoholic. Hes been sober for about 6 months.
Before that, in the spring, he was in a car accident, and charge with DUI causing bodily harm, because the other drive had a broken bone. He is ok now.
We have hired a lawyer, which is costing over $20,000. So financially things could be alot better. Emotionally too. If he is convicted at his trial, he will face 1-2 years in jail, plus be responsible for whatever the insurance company paid to the other drive, lose his licence for 5 years, and possibly face a personal law suit.
Since this has happened, a whole bunch of other horrible shit has happened to us, from losing a baby, moving for his job, his mom being diagnosed with lung cancer…plus a bunch of other crap.
Basically, both our parents health is why we decided to have a wedding in Feb. If we dont, and he does go away who knows if FMIL will be able to see her son get married, and his dad and my mom are also really sick too.
Now, I know most women would say oh just leave him, blah blah blah. But honestly, I doubt anyone of them actually would if it was their fiance. I love him, he is my rock, I dont want to live my life with anyone else. So please dont tell me to leave. Im not, the night I picked him up from the hospital I already commited to this whole situation, and will stand by him no matter what.
So moving along, things are still good between us, its just I dont know how much more either of us can take. I feel so sad, I am already on antidepressants and getting help from the dr, but I just cant imagine what will happen if he has to go away. He doesnt express himself very well, and I can tell hes having a hard time too. I just dont know what to do to help him, or me. I am really scared.
I dont think going to meetings will help. I dont even know if typing this on here will help. I dont know what will help, but tonight I feel sad. He feels sad. He is a good person, and I cant help him