Feeling sad & overwhelmed!

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1112 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I felt like that for a lot of the time we were engaged. Everyone was super discouraging and I wished so badly that we had eloped. But in the end, when it finally came to the day, everything was so totally worth it! The weather was absolutely perfect, everything was gorgeous, and I married the man I loved! Maybe it is time for you to take a break, just take  a week or maybe longer off and enjoy your time being engaged!

Post # 4
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1102 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Lauraine:  ur just over doing it take a few steps back… it is scary to seethe money add up but you have done soooo much already you need to see it through u will enjoy the day it self just take a step back

Post # 5
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845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Lauraine:  I think you, my friend, are suffering wedding burnout! The only cures are 1) getting married or 2) taking a break from planning. Of course, you’ve still got several months before getting married, so it sounds like the best burnout treatment is taking a break for a while! Give yourself a few weeks of no wedding talk, websites (including this one!), projects, or stressing over your spreadsheets and to-do lists. Focus on other fun things in life, preferably those that make you feel good about yourself and your relationship. 

When you’re feeling like thinking about the wedding again, before you do start taking on tasks, read (or re-read) A Practical Wedding to remind you of what’s most important! It will be ok! You’ll come back to it focused, fresh, and with new ideas about how to keep in all in a reasonable budget.

It will be ok!

Post # 6
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715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@Lauraine:  I felt this way, and only had 4 months to plan everything. Which was our choice, but still. My best advice is, since you have until May, take one to two weeks off now, and completely ignore and forget anything and everything wedding relateboric the thought of two weeks off or more actually makes you more anxious and upset, then just take a week off. Leave the Bee alone (we’ll wait for you!) don’t watch wedding TV, take all your wedding things at home and put them out of sight. Don’t take or make phone calls, etc. Just lay it all down, get some rest, catch up with friends, FI, a hobby you’ve set aside…

I remember crying to my mommy about this last year, And Im 42 years old! i hit a miserable point and this is what she told me to do. take a week off. It made all the difference! All we wanted was a nice dinner party for 50 (ha) and “oh yeah we’re going to say some wedding vows instead of playing charades” and instead I found myself PLANNING A WEDDING! And it does get overwhelming.

best of luck to you and check back in with us! ((Hugs)) 

Post # 8
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1244 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@Lauraine:  That’s good! Get him more involved in the wedding planning and that will help to ease the burden on you. Just because you’re paying for most of it that doesn’t mean that he can’t help make decisions and plan!

Post # 10
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21 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Lauraine:  awwww don’t give up. I just had to do the same thing in under 6 months. we are paying 10,000 for our wedding on just one income. We are having 70 guest. It’s very difficult to plan with so little money and to have to do it all yourself. I hope you get back into the swing of things and enjoy your planning. 

Post # 11
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1904 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - TTC #2

I feel the same way sometimes. Only 37 guests on our list but somehow the costs are just adding up and up and for just ONE day!? I feel sick too. Sometimes I feel the whole wedding industry is a mad farce :/ Yet my FI disagrees and says ‘it’s fine, it’s the only wedding we’ll ever have’.

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