Post # 1
FH is a resident 1.5 hours away, so we live separately during the week and get together on the weekends. We both had the week off so we got to spend it together, although FH had to study a lot since he is taking his board exams this week. I am feeling so disappointed that we didn’t get to do all the things I wanted, he has to go back and is going to be working really bad hours for the next 4 months. I also am dreading the return to work tomorrow, particularly since I have a rough work week.
I am just feeling so sad and would love some support/wisdom to help me get through this. Thanks!
Post # 3
I know how that is. Darling Husband used to work out of town on the road all the time and was usually 6 days a week, sometimes he was on overnights, and I was usually working on the one day he was home. The only advise that I can give you it communication however you can. Even text messages are better than nothing. We used to have date nights with eachother, where we would watch the same show together while on the phone with eachother while we were both eating. Sounds strange, but somehow it was a small connection for us. I really wish they had the ichat features on the phones like they do now because that would have been so awesome. Another thing I used to do was leave him little notes in his lunch box, one for everynight of the week for him to read. I also used to send him pictures of regular things, like the dogs playing or doing something funny and he would talk to the dog over speaker and we both thought it was a riot to watch the dog go nuts looking for him, LOL. Sometimes it is the little things that gets you through. I am sorry, I know that this all sucks, but you will come out a stonger couple, we did.
Post # 4
🙁 I can understand the disappointment of not being able to do everything you want and feeling like his job/school comes before you. I’m in a similar situation. My Darling Husband is away in school and we do the weekend thing too. I know it’s really disappointing, and there isn’t much you can do other than just try to enjoy the time you have together.
I keep reminding myself that he doesn’t want to study instead of going out with me either, but he’s doing it for our future and I really appreciate and admire the insane amount of work/time he puts into doing well in his classes. Looking at it as a sacrifice on his part has made it easier for me to accept that things not working out aren’t his fault and are really just the result of him working so hard for our future.