(Closed) Feeling sad…cancelled wedding day coming up…what to do

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1815 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall

I don’t know how rocky your relationship is right this moment, but if it’s successfully on the mend, what about treating the day as a kind of promise of things to come – dress up, light some candles, cook a nice dinner together, share a bottle of champagne, put on some sweet music and slow dance in the living room? I don’t think of it as healthy to view it as a ruined day if you are still together. I have not been in your situation, but I would try to make it a happy, “maybe not now, but soon!”-feeling day.

Does that make any sense?! Haha 

Post # 4
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My situation is a little different than yours, our original wedding date was July 2 2011, however my father passed a away 4 days before the wedding, and thus we moved the date to April 14 2012.  Everytime that July 2 passes, we laugh and think holy heck, it is WAY too hot to be getting married on this day, what were we thinking!


A missed date is just that, a missed date.  My April date had absolutely perfect weather, and that is the day I chose to remeber in respect to our wedding.  Keep your head up and look forward, your day will be here soon enough. 


You can’t look to your past while creating your future


Post # 6
643 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

If that happened to my Fiance and I here is what we would do on the day:

We would spend the day together in pajama pants eating ice-cream out of the bucket and watching documentaries about dinosaurs. Then wine, lots of wine, and Indian take-out. Anytime we felt really sad about it, we would pause the documentaries and talk about what we were feeling, our regrets and wishes for the future without judgment or defensiveness. Then after dinner we would have a heart-to-heart about where we want to go from here (elope, have a big wedding, just stay dating etc.) and come up with a plan so neither of us are kept in the dark.

Though I suppose that plan only works if you have the same inordinate love of ice-cream, wine, Indian food and dinosaurs that we do.

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