- 8 years ago
- Wedding: December 2011
so I’m a guy. Been divorced once before due to her cheating. We tried to fix with counseling but she continued to cheat and we got divoreced.
Fast forward 2.5yrs later. I meet this wonderful woman who has a child. We all get along well and have been dating for the past year. I could not see myself with anyone else aside from her so we got engaged.
Since then, she has become depressed about what “the perfect wedding costs” and is being unreasonable about a budget because its “her day and is should be perfect and she shouldn’t have to settle, etc. etc.” What this has come to is a lot of arguing and an agreement to spend no more than 10k.
I’ve recently found out that her family will only contribute maybe 2k and “we” meaning I, need to come up with the rest. Due to my work situation, finances have become tight for the next few months looking forward. This does not fit into her plans and she is questioning my ablity to provide.
It has turned into her saying “i dont want to start the marriage being broke” and asking me if its always going to be like this. I cannot guaruntee anything, but we do always have a roof over our heads and food on the table as well as her child has good schooling and is very well taken care of (child is the priority)
I’m starting to question breaking everything off because now she has shutdown to me physically stating shes depressed because we dont have money and planning the wedding is now no fun. This in my mind translates to no money means no physical intamacy with her. She states no money makes her feel not secure about our future which makes her not happy which makes her not want to be with me physically.
We never had these problems before we got engaged. I was making great money up to that point as well. it now seems she is just fixated on money above me.