Post # 1
Bees, how do you keep your cool when you are feeling antsy before a proposal?
Our background: We have been friends for six years and have been together for eight months. I recently moved in with Mr. S and we have had many discussions on what we want for the future.
He says that he knows when he will propose and I asked for a general timeline. He told me that he would tell me when if I really wanted, but we both are looking forward to the surprise. So I asked him if we will have been together for between 1-2 years when he wants to get engaged, less, or more. He said it will be between 1-2 years for us.
I think I am just so excited about spending my life with Mr. S, but I feel SO ANTSYPANTS. He told me to have some patience, haha. It’s hard some days! I definitely try not to bring it up too often, but we do talk about it sometimes. What do you do when you feel like this? How do I keep myself from going crazy or making him crazy? Some days, I am totally laid back and fine with waiting and others, I just can’t contain myself.
Post # 3
@Sawyer13: lol @ antsypants.
I think all of us waiting bees are antsypants around here too!! It’s hard to calm down haha! I’m excited for you, and I’m excited to get married too, and I’m excited for all the other bees as well. Life really is better when you find the love of your life…things are just, easier! haha! And I’m glad at the very least that we are lucky waiting bees to be in this state of mind right now.
Few things that have helped me. 1st of all, have you thought about how you might pay for a wedding? Once I realized a proposal is coming after MR VB saves up for a ring, I realized that I probably need to start saving for the day. We’ve talked enough about the day and I know we will be paying for it together, but since he’s paying for the ring and such, I figured I’d get a jump start on the saving for the day.
Making inspiration boards on pintrest has helped me as of this week, it’s cool to get some ideas together of what you want, realize the cost, etc.
The shut it up pact and this blog in general has given me a lot of insight as well.
Just try to enjoy yourself. I refer to this relationship state as both nearlywed (we live together, split bills, have two dogs that we got together, etc), and lately I’ve been calling us ‘pre engaged’. It’s going to happen, maybe a year or so from now but eventually it’s gonna happen. It’s exciting! Enjoy antsypants!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: April 2014 - Rebar
@Sawyer13: patience?! lol there are many days i dont have that! I been waiting for a while. Ive known i wanted to marry SO for about 8 years by now so unofficially i have been waiting long 8 years!!!….but we were too young to do it…..waiting time officially has been a year! N at times i feel so done with waiting lol. I agree with what @veryberry13: said! Think about how much a wedding cost…and other important things this will keep ur mind occupied in something that at the end of the day will come in handy!!! Good luck!! Keep us posted 🙂