(Closed) Feeling so nervous/scared to have a MC

posted 5 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@MissKemo:  I’m 11w 4d but I can tell you in my 10th week I was constipated. My tummy ached and cramped so bad I literally told myself I was miscarrying. I drank tons of water and ate some salad, I pooped. Let me tell you, I felt 10 times better! lol Plus sometimes cramping is from not drinking enough fluids.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m crazy worried, especially since it’d so early for me (I’m only 4w3d). I think that everyone must be to some degree. This morning I went to the doctor so they could confirm and now I have to wait until the 15th to see the ob/gyn. I was hoping that they were going to do a blood test so they could tell me some extra- any extra- info, but nope just a urine test and a “it’s positive”. FX for a healthy little one at your appointment!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

It’s completely normal to worry.  I did too.  Even once the m/c risk is low, there are other things to worry about :/  It’s difficult to prevent letting it consume you, but honestly- there is NOTHING you can do but think positive thoughts. 

I used to find myself starting to worry a little, and I’d stop myself and think (sometimes even say out loud!) ‘Today I am pregnant.  Right now, I am healthy and my baby is healthy.’

I’m going to be 38 weeks Friday, and I’d be lying if I said from time to time negative thoughts don’t creep in.  What if they missed a developmental abnormality in the ultrasounds?  What if something goes wrong during labor?  What if I’m a shitty mom?

But I have to STOP.  I have to be positive.  I really do believe that my baby feels my confidence, my optimism, my trust in my body to do exactly what it was designed to do.  If I stay calm and positive, my baby will feel that. 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@DaneLady:  This is AWESOME! this made me feel so much better! 

Every day i wake up fearing the worst, and then I have to remember to be thankful to EVEN be pregnant because so many women cant are aren’t right now. MC is scary, but there is nothing we can do to control or stop it from happening… besides praying or thinking positive.

Every week is new accomplishment…be thankful for that. Yesterday i hit 6 weeks, tomorrow i get to see my baby’s HB, I am so thankful for that.

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Almost all women have miscarriages. I don’t know anyone personally who has kids who did not have at least one. Most had 2-3. It’s natural – about 30-50% of pregnancies end in miscarriage, especially when you factor in chemical pregnancies.

It is likely just your uterus stretching or possibly tummy issues. Ultimately, it’s out of your hands!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MissKemo:  Yep, first baby!  Of course I’m excited, but I’m definitely terrified too!  Once I hit second trimester, I breathed a sigh of relief that the risk of m/c had gone down… once I hit 25 weeks I breathed a sigh of relief because that’s the threshold of viability… once I hit 35 weeks I breathed a sigh of relief because my hospital won’t do anything to artificially stop or delay labor should it begin preterm… once I hit 37 weeks I breathed a sigh of relief because I’m technically full term.

The worries evolve, but they don’t stop.  Now I’m worried (a little bit- not as much as before) that I’m not going to know how to care for my baby.  I have NO IDEA what I’m doing, but I do have a great husband, a close family, some awesome friends, and of course the Bee to talk me off the ledge if I let my worries get the best of me πŸ™‚  I am working on trusting nature, trusting my body, and trusting my baby. 

@MrsStrawberry24:  Lucky ducky- I didn’t get to see or hear the hb until 11 weeks!  Enjoy every moment πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@crayfish:  Really? While I know that miscarriages are common and certainly have friends and family members who have had them I do not think “almost all” women have miscarriages. Thats quite a generalization!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have had cramping alllllllll the time, too (13 weeks 2 days today).  It is scary but I am pretty sure it is completely normal!  I read in a book one time that a lady called them “terror cramps” because they are terrifying!!! Add in the fact I had some bright red blood around 8 weeks I was certain my baby was doomed, but turns out it was my cervix bleeding from straining too hard to try and go #2 and babe is still doing really well, even with all the cramping!  I have also been having major GI issues, and unfortunately the nerves down there aren’t highly sophisticated…they will basically give you the same feeling whether the cramping is coming from your uterus or bowels.  

I think I just came to accept that cramping is OK for me and probably a sign that baby and uterus are growing like they should..that helped lessen the worry a little for me. I don’t think the worry every really goes away, and I’m sure it will probably get worse instead of better once baby is outside in the big scary world! I just can’t wait to actually FEEL baby in there, that way you know they are alive and kickin’ (literally! :P) down there.  And even though it’s not any fun, my constant feeling like crap since week 6 helps reassure me that yes, I am in fact still pregnant! Such a blessing and a curse πŸ˜‰ 

Hang in there! I know I am not much farther along than you, but I still feel like each week makes it a little easier to breathe! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@MissKemo:  You’re not alone, it seems like all of us worry. I’m 5w4d and MC worries creep into my head daily. Especially right now since my symptoms are pretty minimal. But, I try not to focus on that and just focus on what I can control which is my diet, exercise, rest, etc. And PLEASE try not to google the bad stuff. It will only make you feel worse and make you worry more. It seems that you are educated on MC so you probably won’t learn anything by googling them.

This may be TMI, but my bathroom habits have definitely changed in the past few weeks. I used to be very regular and now I just feel a little off. I used to drink a lot of green tea which cleanses your system and now I’ve given it up so I’m planning to add ground flax seed to my morning oatmeal which should help.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@julia924:  I totally know where you’re coming from, that’s exactly where I was a month ago when we first found out. It’s unnerving to have to wait so long to hear from the doctor that everything is on track. Hang in there, the time will go quicker than you think! 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

@MissKemo:  Don’t worry. I think fearing miscarriage is something that EVERY pregnant woman worries about. I know I do, even now, after 3 ultrasounds and baby measuring 2 days ahead and having a strong heartbeat. I think it’s normal to already love this baby so much that you will do anyting to protect it. It’s a sign that you’re a good mom already! πŸ™‚

I had cramping (all day long) from 6DPO til about 5-7 weeks of my pregnancy. I’m 11 weeks now and as my uterus (and baby) grows bigger, I still get cramping on and off. Sometimes every day. This is totally normal. I have been told, however, that the more water you drink (it is recommended to drink at least 80oz a day while pregnant), the less cramping you might have. 

 

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