Feeling so weird about the registry!

posted 3 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I felt that way for different reasons. I’ve been married before and over the past decade and a half accumulated everything I need for my home (including my Le Creuset!). I know there are people who want to buy us gifts anyway so I registered for items I wouldn’t mind replacing (towels, sheets, douvets, etc).  Some of my towels are pretty old so I can make rags out of them when I  have them replaced. There are several people I know who are coming that are not rolling in the dough so I kept the dollar amounts moderate (I love cloth napkins, placemats, etc). 

You will probably get more cash since your registry isn’t large. 

 

 

 

Post # 4
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7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think that as you say, you need a variety of price points. Don’t feel guilty for registering for expensive items, as long as you know you’ll use them. I assume not everyone you associate with is a poor student. My mom isn’t rich by any means, and she wants to give us $1,000 for our wedding gift. Family usually wants to gift a bit more, and some friends will go in together to get you a big item. You’re not forcing anyone to buy anything for you.. so (and I mean this in a nice way) get over it.

Post # 5
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299 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I hear you on that. I’m pretty financially comfortable, but frugal. I could easily afford a $180 frying pan from Crate and Barrel, but I’d never ever buy it for myself. It seems crazy expensive for a pan. Plus we already have all the household things we need. Yet I registered for it. And several other things in the $100-$200 price range. I registered for plenty of less expensive things too. But even those items could be found cheaper if you shopped around. But I don’t care. For once in my life I want to go for the “nice” option, not the cheap option. I want to stock my home with things that will last, not things that are good enough for right now. I want to upgrade. I feel pretty guilty about the whole thing though.

Post # 7
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860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsSmitty:  I hear you on that one.  The items I’ve purchased years ago (cookware, furniture) I still have and it will last generations, even thing things I purchased used such as my 70 year-old cast iron and vintage/antique wood furniture. I did buy expensive cookware but I cook daily. 

Post # 8
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381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I definitely felt weird. Where Im from people 99% give cash at the wedding itself. So the registry is for the shower. I felt bad registering for things when 1. I have expensive taste for my housewares 2. I know people will be giving cash on wedding, why should they shell out even more $ for shower etc. So I registered for towels, sheets, some kitchen gadgets I would want but never had (shrimp peeler lol)

 

But then at my shower people asked me why did I pick such cheap stuff! So I dont know, Im glad I dont have to do this ever again haha.

Post # 10
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779 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I find that when something I’m doing makes me feel uncomfortable or guilty, it’s time to reexamine the choices I’m making, regardless of what’s generally done or accepted practice. Sometimes it’s instructive to think about how I’d behave in the absence of established traditions. Even if I conclude that I was right all along, at least I feel confident that I’m making my own decisions based on sound reasoning instead of blindly defaulting to whatever other people do.

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