Post # 1
So I’m just feeling sad lately while thinking about my wedding. I love my fiancé and can’t wait to marry him, but two very important people to me won’t be there. Both my parents have passed away. My dad when and I was 19 and my mom when I was 20. I can’t help but feel sorry for myself sometimes. And I keep everything to myself Because I hate when people see me weak. ( a flaw that only harms me, I know). I’m getting married in October 2014 and can’t wait to start my life, but I just wish my parents can be there. I miss them And sometimes feel like God is punishing me for something. I think I’m good person and care about others . I finished college just like my mom wanted me to. I have a supportive family and great group of friends. I don’t know why sometimes I just feel sad. I guess because it’s supposed to be a fun and exciting time, but in the back of my mind im thinking if them. How can I be happy and enjoy this time and not feel sad and guty for my parents not being there.
Guess i just needed to vent. Thanks ladies.
Post # 3
I am sorry for your loss!
I can’t imagine how difficult it is for you..
Have you considered doing something for their memory in your wedding? Like keeping 2 chairs empty at the front with a rose on each? Or something of the sort..
Don’t feel guilty, i don’t think they would have wanted you to feel sad during such a time, parents want their kids to be happy no matter what.. And they’ll be watching over your wedding:)
Post # 4
@Love101914: So sorry for your loss! I know that feeling all too well, although not the same extent. My Dad passed away when I was 15 and for a lot of the time leading up to the wedding I was excited but sad all at once because he wouldn’t be there to walk me down the aisle. I agree with Yara23 about doing something to remember them. I ordered small picture frames for my Dad as well as my Grandparents that had passed and attached them to my bouquet. It definitely helped me feel like they were there in spirit even more. Hope this helps!
Post # 5
*hugs* I am so sorry! I have never been married, but I always cry at weddings where one of the bride’s parents has passed and isn’t able to be there… I think about what it would be like and how sad I would be if one of my parents passed before I got married. There is nothing wrong with feeling sad about it. I think you need to express that to the people closest to you so they can help you through it. Keeping it to yourself isn’t going to make you feel better. As others have suggested, you should find a way to honor them during the wedding.
Post # 6
@Love101914: I am so sorry that happened to you 🙁
Your parents would want you to be happy. This is an exciting time in your life. Talking to your FI may help you. When you are missing them and you feel sad, talk to him about it and it will make you feel better. You can’t keep the sadness bottled up. People who have been through things like this need support. Don’t be afraid to need it. I know, it sounds so corny but if you want to feel better, give it a try.