(Closed) Feeling Terrible…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I think this is such a difficult thing to work out. Because he hasn’t proposed yet, so you feel weird telling him what ring to buy making it look like you’re expecting it, but at the same time he needs guidance ultimately from you because he wants you to like it.

Honestly if I were you, I would sheepishly tell him that while you love sapphires, it is not what you always envisioned for an engagement ring. Give him your reasons for wanting a diamond (assuming that’s what you want) including how traditional they are, how they ‘go’ with everything and how beautiful you think they are in general. If you have specific cuts or style, try to mention that as well, but in a non-pushy way.

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No, I think you’re handling the situation fine.  You were honest with him. 

The only reason he thought about getting you a sapphire in the first place was because he thought it would make you happy.  Ring shopping is a learning experience; it is going to take time regardless if you change your mind a million times or if you know exactly what you want.  I wouldn’t worry too much about it.  The situation would be completely different if he couldn’t afford a diamond, so opted for a sapphire instead.

Keep your chin up =)

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Picking out a ring IS very difficult! They cost the same as a car (no matter what size, there is a car that price), but unlike a car how they look matters a lot! And unlike a car you are going to be wearing it for life! To a guy, picking the wrong ring could mean that he doesn’t know his girlfriend well enough, he doesn’t want to upset her – there is so much pressure!

If your boyfriend is already talking to your best friend about it then wouldn’t the easiest thing to do be to talk to her about it? (If you’d rather keep it hush-hush, you could speak to him directly but I think he wants it to be more of a surprise) Good luck and have fun with it, this is the exciting part!

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