Post # 1
I have been pretty depressed lately… Fi proposed but really doesn’t show any intention on getting married, although he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. I am TTC for almost 2 years and nothing is happening in that area either.
I feel I am just watching life passing and not really accomplishing anything…
Work is boring, social life almost inexistent…
Not sure how to make it better…
Post # 3
🙁 I have been exactly where you are, about a year ago. We were TCC for a year and a half and I thought fiance would never propose. I hated my job and had no friends. I got pretty sick of feeling down all the time. So I decided I needed to make a change. My change was a difference in my faith, not sure if you’re religious at all. I hope you find something to help, I know how hard it can be to get out of that rut. 🙁 Hugs!
Post # 4
I’m sorry that’s sounds really sad. Maybe u could start a new hobbies?
Post # 5
I would start by outlining small goals for yourself and as you accomplish them, work towards bigger goals. If you start off by setting big goals, it can feel like too much and be the opposite of motivating. At least that’s been my experience!
Perhaps sit down with your FI and discuss how you’ve been feeling and you’d like to set a timeline for your wedding. If he’s unwilling to do so, that might require a deeper discussion/more self-reflection.
As for your TTC, have you spoken with a doctor? That could help rule out any potential problems.
For your job… do you have something else you’d rather do instead? If so, set small goals to get yourself there! Whether it be taking a class, researching opportunities, applying for one job a week, etc.
I’ve known people who have really built their social lives up through things like meetup.com – do you have any options like that in your area?
Do you exercise? That can be a big help too. It helps you feel better, get active, can help in the TTC department, and if you like group fitness classes, that can be a way to meet new people!
I’m sorry you’re feeling down, I can definitely relate and it can be hard to dust yourself up and get going! But like I said, I think small little goals can help get you moving in the right direction.
Post # 6
@sheilamelo: Well, I understand how you feel, we all feel that way sometimes. Right now you are looking at the BIG PICTURE of your life and how you want things to be in the future. I do the same thing!
However, let me suggest something to help your downward spiral take a reverse turn and start heading upwards.
Realize that we can’t LIVE in the future. We only have right NOW. So, you have a choice. You can choose to be miserable, down and upset because your future is not here yet. OR – You can choose, right now – to be happy and grateful for one small thing in your life that you are happy with, right now. Sounds simple, huh?
But seriously – If you’re feeling depressed there is nothing wrong with you. It’s normal to feel that way sometimes. It is easy, however, to refocus. Even for 15 minutes. Go outside. Bask in the sunshine. Listen to the birds chirping. Take a walk. Breathe the fresh air.
Or do something you really enjoy – listening to music, reading a book, whatever your “thing” may be.
You’ll feel better in no time. And your future will still get here when it gets here. Feeling crappy about things is not going to make anything get here faster.
May as well enjoy the ride.