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I feel the pressure.. specially when my mum pokes my tummy when shes joking and she says you better watch your weight... I KNOW i have abit of a tummy, but im not obese.. im in the healthy weight range, but yup its exactly what I needed with only 19 days to go.. Nothing like the ego boost. I worry that my skin isnt going to look that great even tho Ive tried and tried to drink lots of water and do all the right beauty routines. Anyway.. since ive done that my skins never looked more crappier. Breaking out and then it smooths out then it dries out.
*sigh* thanks for letting me vent too.
There is definitely a pressure.. and your not alone.
agh! ccranetobe, I am giving you a big hug virtually just because I'm so relieved I'm not alone!!! Like, seriously.. we need to be reminded of stuff like our weight and hair and so when we're SO CLOSE?! My skin is acting up too. Oh, stress!!
don't worry lovelies! i have definite insecurities... and was nervous about having all the attention on me. but once your hubby or soon-to-be-hubby (if you do the first look thing) says you're gorgeous, you won't give it a second thought for the rest of the day. promise.
@miss el, that's good advice and probably very, very true :)
I have no doubt you ladies are all going to look gorgeous on your wedding day. Somehow with the dress and the hair and makeup, it all comes together that day. And whatever imperfections there are left, your photographer takes care of them :) I thought before the wedding I have a nice body and I want my wedding dresses to show it off. Well, I ended up with two dresses that really didn't; and I was sure I was going to look at my photos afterwards and feel fat or ugly. But now that I look at them...I don't even see those details. I just see the prettiest version of myself that could be, overall, smiling big and happy, and I love it!
@SweetheartDealer: im sure with 5 days to go.. i seriously wont even care what people with be thinking because its just too late to change everything..
and amen for makeup and amen for tummy sucker innerers....we just need to kick it to the curb and go.. Im getting married so NERRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR :P
:D :D :D
You are aboslutely, positively, NOT ALONE in feeling this way. With the exception of last week, every time I have put on my wedding dress, I've felt horrible about myself. I'm the heaviest I've been in my entire life and three months out from my wedding. I'm working hard to lose just a bit of weight between now and my date in October -but if I don't I'm sure life will go on.. I've never been a person to be critical of my looks - so this is very new to me, Part of me wonders if it is because in the last two years, yes I've put on weight but my usual insecurity was my crooked, overcrowded teeth - I've had braces now and have a great smile.. perhaps I'm trying to find a new flaw to fixate on?
In the end, I agree with the PP about the fact that on your actual wedding day, your hubby wil think you are the most amazing woman he has ever seen - and really? that is all that matters :)
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Hi Ladies! I'm 12 days out and I'm starting to get spazzy about not looking "perfect" on the one day. What's strange is I usually have very good self esteem - other than my weight problems, I'm very happy with my appearance. However, as the wedding draws near I am finding myself being worried about "looking good enough" and if people will think I look nice. It is absurd, but I think I'm really feeling the pressure of having to be this dainty, beautiful bride. A few things aggravated it... I just had my hair color redid, and because of the sun and chlorine this summer, the dye made my hair a little darker than usual. My mom saw a photo of my bachelorette and said "your hair looks dark, is it still blonde? you don't want to not be blonde for the wedding." Stupid things like that, when my hair is still obviously blonde, just a little bit darker. Then I worry about my weight - that people will say "Oh, she has such a pretty face, if only she weren't so big." I know I'm making up a lot of this in my head, but I think the nerves of 150 people all stopping and staring at me all at once and analyzing how I look is scary. Again - I know I need to nip the thought of them "analyzing" me, but I hate being the center of attention and am finding myself fretting about the makeup, the hair, the weight, etc. I think I'm just going momentarily insane because I know I'm beautiful - I would never question that. Why do I keep ruminating on feeling I need to look flawless? My fiance tells me every day how beautiful I am, and I believe him.. but I'm having a hard time letting go about my appearance the day of the wedding. It's so built up, it feels like. Is anyone else feeling the pressure? How are you coping with it?