Feeling too sad for my wedding

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I think at this point you have to count your blessings.  That is not how you envisioned your wedding day to be- but your brother is alive and will recover- and that is something to celebrate!  Have a wonderful wedding!

Post # 4
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@MrsMath:  You have to look at the bright side..he is alive and recovering.

My FMIL went through the same exact thing, her youngest brother got into a really bad car accident the day of her wedding! She didn’t find out until after the ceremony and of course some people had to leave and come back late for the reception. Her brother kept insisting people go to the wedding that this is her day.
It is sad that he was not able to attend but all she kept saying was thank God he is alive!

I will pray for your brother. 🙂

Post # 5
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1007 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Will you have time to go to the hospital all dressed up on your wedding day to see your brother? I’m so sorry you are experiencing this. I’ll keep you in my thoughts. 

Post # 6
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11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m so sorry but so glad your brother is ok. You have to enjoy your day For your brother. He is going to feel guilty about this even more if you don’t enjoy your day. My grandfather nearly died minutes before my sisters wedding and missed it. Yes it put a huge damper on the day but once we knew he was ok we had to enjoy the day for him. He felt so awful and no one wanted that since it wasn’t his fault!

You only get one weddig and it flies by. Enjoy it!!!!!!!!! 

Post # 7
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

I am thankful your brother is alive and recovering. I fully understand how upsetting this is – you wanted your brother to be there.

If nothing else, consider your wedding day part of the legal process. Afterward, when your brother is in better shape, maybe you can have a small renewal ceremony so he can be included.

Post # 8
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3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m so sorry for you all, but is there any way you can do what @OtterHalf: suggested? I think that would make you feel less bad about not having him there. You could perhaps even bring the wedding party there for a group photo around the bed? Or if he’s in too bad shape for that, just go there with your new husband and leave the bouquet with him instead of just throwing it during the party?

Hugs!

Post # 9
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1634 posts
Bumble bee

I think it would be devastating if my brother couldn’t make it to my wedding, but with that said he is alive and will walk away from this. I know it’s so hard right now to think about anything else but he’s going to be ok! you might have to force yourself into ‘wedding mode’ and concentrate on the positives. If the roles were reversed and it was you in the hospital bed, I really don’t think you’d want him feeling sad that you couldn’t be there for his wedding, but happy that you’ll get to make lots more memories with him later on. I’m so sorry this happened, but im thankful that both men are going to be just fine! Your brother is alive and you get to marry your sweetheart… It’s going to be a good day!

Post # 10
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1248 posts
Bumble bee

What a blessing that he survived! Dont forget that!

My best friend got married last year, i was MOH. Her brother has some anxiety issues. 5 minutes before her ceremony, she found out he wasn’t going to show up to the wedding. He disappeared earlier in the day, and her dad couldn’t get in contact with him. He was fine, just off probably drinking and smoking weed somewhere. Anyway, bride & her brother have always been very close, and it hurt her really bad that he didnt make it. So she stood in the corner, let out some tears, decided she would deal with that later because now was the moment for her to marry the man of her dreams. She had a fabulous time, her brother checked in with her mom during the reception to at least let them know he was alive, and she went on with her wedding as planned. These type of things happen, and they totally suck, but we can’t stop our plans everytime something unplanned happens. Sounds like ya’ll have an awesome plan set up for him to still be able to watch the whole thing! Enjoy you & your FI day! Your brother will be celebrating it too!

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