- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
DH has 2 kids, a boy (8) and a girl (10). I have one daughter, (9). For the most part, we’re a really good blended family.
Tomorrow is my stepson’s birthday. My MIL came into town to spend the weekend celebrating. She brought lots of goodies & party supplies, and I provided the cake & ice cream, and a few other small things for the party.
Tonight we had dinner together & then we had cake & ice cream. The problem is, my stepson is the world’s pickiest eater & really doesn’t eat sweets. However, DH & his mom asked me if I could take care of getting him a cake. So, yesterday I went on my lunch break & ordered the cake. Today I had taken the day off to finish cleaning up the house & stuff, and I had to run & pick up the cake & ice cream. Then, I forgot to get candles, so before we were to sing to him I ran back out, to 3 different stores to get candles. And……the kid will not eat any of the cake. He literally ate 3 bites of ice cream & threw the rest out.
Now, I knew he doesn’t typically eat cake. But, since this is our first year celebrating together, if DH says to get a cake, I assumed it was because he’d want one. I asked what kind he liked, and was told plain yellow cake. I got 1/2 yellow & 1/2 chocolate because myself, my daughter, and step daughter all like chocolate. Anyway, I’m really quite irked that I was told to run out & get this stinking cake, and it’s a complete waste.
I said something to DH about it & it basically escalated into a huge argument because he feels like I’m being stupid. But, I told him it’s more about the fact that he completely does not appreciate that I ran around getting this cake & stuff, all for nothing.
On top of this, every weekend that we’ve had his kids lately has turned into a challenge. From the time we pick them up, it’s all about “I want this” and “can you buy me that?”. Everthing is about ‘stuff’, and we can’t seem to please them for anything…..
I feel like I constantly go out of my way to treat his kids like my own. I do everything I can to treat them as fairly as I treat my own daughter. When I go shopping, I’m constantly looking for stuff for them, as well as my own child. I never leave them out of anything. I also ask him regularly on the days we don’t have them about how they’re doing & try to keep up with their lives.
I guess I really just needed to vent…..