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You don't think they might be going into the stores and buying the you things off your registry? Lots of people don't like buying offline...
As someone that has bought many bridal gifts... i always go buy them the day before! nothing like waiting till the last minute eh? lol i HIGHLY doubt that your family doesnt like you! Your out of town family that is not coming to your shower might be waiting to give you a present at your wedding.
Seriously, I think the day before, if not the day of is when people typically buy gifts. The advantage of a registry is that they don't have to "shop" they just go to the store and buy what you want.
Don't stress about this!!
Your shower is "far away" in gift buying terms. most poeple shop the day before dont worry!
I'm a horrible procrastinator and I've always bought the bridal shower gift the day of or the day before a shower. Lot's of people tend to wait until the last minute or forget to mark it off the registry during checkout.
Hahah, I'm feeling the same way! My shower is Sunday and there's like two things bought from the registry! I'm thinking either people are procrastinators or they're buying stuff that's not registry!
I know that I am totally a last minute shower gift shopper! I'm terrible with that and always go the week of to buy the gift! I wouldn't worry too much...as your shower gets closer, things will start flying off of your registry!
My FSIL's shower was this past weekend and hardly anything was bought until the weekend before the shower, with about half or so being bought the week before. I wouldn't stress. Most of her family and friends lived at least 35-45 minutes from the stores she registered at and still many bought from those stores. I wouldn't worry too much. You still have some time, and I'm sure you'll be surrounded by love (and gifts) at your shower!
I'm usually a procrastinator too. As is my family. I guess my hang up is that most people attending live an hour drive from the closest BBB and 1.5 hours from W-S or restoration hardware. So I'd expect more gifts to be bought online, which would require shipping, which could take upto a week. My family is very intelligent, they know it takes a while for shipping. I guess that is why I expected some gifts to be bought up this past weekend.
I could have registered at Macy's but they really didn't carry what I wanted, and the things they had that I wanted were 25% higher than what I found at amazon. Plus BBB has the 20% coupon. I will post how things go, if I get any presents come the shower.
They might be planning a shopping trip for this weekend too, to get your gift.
I wouldn't place so much importance on the gifts. They're your family; of course they love you! The gifts will come.
I agree with the above. People are always last minute shoppers for showers. Closer family usually buy the week before, as to figuring out as to buy a gift or a few pitching in for a bigger gift. And although planned, people always have a hard time agreeing on the one gift to pitch in for. And the day before and day of are the days most people buy. I have never gone to a shower of any sort without having got it a day or two before or even picking up a few extras the day of as well.
I agree with all of hte previous posters that it is way to early to get worried! Many guests purchase gifts the day before or day of. Plus, I also got some great shower gifts that weren't on my registry.
My shower was this past weekend, and a lot of the gifts weren't bought until a day or so before... and the things that were bought were little: spatulas, bowls, etc.
Some people bought things that weren't on the registry (and consequently, I returned most of them), and some just gave gift cards or "personal" gifts like soaps, lotions, and candles.
Oh, and everything the shower guests bought came from my BB&B registry. So far, only one person has used my Amazon registry. I bet my Amazon registry feels unloved. ;)
Don't worry - I'm sure you'll get lots of gifts at your shower, and I'm sure most will be bought the day before/of!
@FutureMrsSpinewiz:I agree that the amazon registry doesn't get much love. I wonder why. Most of the people are younger and shop online. Point, click, and your done with free shipping to boot. Why fight the crowds on a saturday when you can shop in your PJ's while sipping coffee?
Girl, my shower is in two days and I *just* saw the first item disappear from my registry. It's all good. Relax and have a wonderful time with the people who care about you.
Do you REALLY think people will show up at your shower empty handed? Of course not! People just procrastinate. Don't stress :)
I think now a days alot of people thing of Bridal showers for the Bride...
I know alot of people have been asking my friend that question... Or alot of people think they are going to buy off the registery for the wedding and why buy off it for the bridal shower? I'm hoping I get showerd in gifts but i also would love the ones taht will benefit both FI and ME
As PP said, I almost always pick up my gifts for shower the day before and sometimes even the day of the shower.. so I wouldn't worry about it at all!
Um, most people buy shower gift the week of and even the day of the shower. Quit registry stalking and be surprised...
I wouldn't spend energy worrying over this...I also suggest that you stop looking at your registry as you really don't know/have control over what people gift to you. Just my thought! That's what I did, at least, and I never worried about a thing. I never understood the whole registry-stalking thing - seems like it would only bring disappointment when your shower should be fun.
I felt the exact same way so you, OP. Well, I don't feel unloved (I highly doubt that's the case w/ you), but I was wondering what the heck is going on. But hearing from a lot of people that most procrastinate til day of made me feel better :)
And as far as registry stalking, a lot of people do it. We registered for the stuff, not such a huge surprise if we get it.
I feel your pain - but I found out most of those errors were either A) on behalf of the store not scanning or B) people waiting until the last minute to get something. No fear, you are loved!
I agree with the other Bees. Some thoughts...
A) I wouldn't spend energy feeling unloved because you know you're loved by your family and whether or not you receive a gift is no reflection of their love for you.
B) I'm a HUGE procrastinator. In fact, I do my best work when I'm feeling the crunch of a deadline. I'm pretty sure everyone else functions the same way when it comes to buying gifts.
C) This is thinking outside the box but it applies to me. Sometimes I NEED to wait until closer to the occasion due to finances. Example: DH and I have had at least one birthday party or baby shower every weekend for the past two months. Our money is super tight right now because each week we're buying gifts. In fact, I need to buy a gift tomorrow for another party Saturday night. ;)
Relax a bit and get ready for some fun!
I just had my shower a few weekends ago and honestly I got very little from my registry!
My girls planned an around the clock shower (everyone got a time and the gift was supposed to represent that time) and the gifts they bought ended up being so personal and showed how much they loved me. They all got us gift cards for things we love to do, our favourite restaurant, the movie theatre, blockbuster, a massage, stuff for hosting BBQs, serving dishes, etc.
We are big quality time people. Meaning we LOVE doing stuff together rather than owning things and the fact that all my friends and family KNOW that about us and bought gifts accordingly makes me feel WAY more loved than if they bought off the registry!
So I wouldn't put too much worry into it - your shower will be great no matter what people give you!
I sometimes forget the registry at home, and don't always shop directly from it. This also happened to my niece who recenly married, she had lots of gifts not all from their registry. Let's face it, not all people are "registry" shoppers.
Don't panic. I think a lot of people forget to update the registry. Also, if your Amazon registry includes non-Amazon items (universal wish list), those items will not be marked automatically as they're purchased. Finally, you may find some of your guests buy registry items at non-registry stores.
My shower was last weekend, and I was a little concerned going into it, too. However, I was overwhelmed with the number of nice gifts I received -- all from our registries. I just made sure to update them accordingly when I got home.
I honestly don't have any of those stores anywhere near me. & if I waited till the last minute and didn't have time to order online I'd probably end up winging it. Thats why I think people usually register @ stores that are nearby where the guests are coming from? U might get a lot of surprise gifts. I wouldn't waste much energy worrying about it. They're just gifts.
@dobs737: Dont feel that way. I felt the same way because I was stalking my registry and not alot of items were purchased. The truth is most people wait until the last minute. I got so many gifts and felt so loved dont worry your shower will be great!
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I know that a lot of guests give money as gifts. But the purpose of a shower is to shower bride with gifts! My aunt is holding a shower for me on 9/5/2010. I have a pretty big family (my dad is 1 of 11). Despite this, only one thing has been bought off the registry that wasn't from my parents or my future MIL.
I'm beginning to think my family doesn't like me! I registered at BBB, Amazon, Williams Sonoma, and Restoration Hardware. I'd expect more gifts to be bought online since many family members don't live in towns with the brick and mortar stores. But if they were buying online, they probably should have done it by today so that gifts would arrive in time for the shower. I just don't know what to think. Trying not to cry, trying not to feel loved, but its kinda hard!
Are any other brides feeling like this?