Feeling very alone/ friend issues

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
5222 posts
Bee Keeper

@alyssaC:  I know exactly how you feel. I moved to a new city 3.5 years ago and I am STILL trying to make a good, reliable friend. Something that is currently helping me is that I started some new hobbies, and have started meeting some new women. It may work out, it may not… but it fills up some time and gets me out and talking to people instead of staring at the computer or TV screen. Can you maybe join a local book club, take a painting or baking class, try a yoga studio? I started feeding horses on the weekends and helping take care of them while the owners are out showing them, it has allowed me to meet some really interesting people. Sorry, I do know it sucks 🙁 What sucks more is having crappy friends, so if someone is being one sided or emotionally a drain, it is A-OK to cut them out and be picky about who you let close to you!

Post # 4
5905 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@alyssaC:  I was totally feeling the same way today…I fell out with my best friend of 28 years last year and even though she totally sucks…I miss having someone to hang out with…all my other friends are drama queens or parents and I don’t do either very well…so that leave me, doing stuff lone ranger style….I just want someone to be my Tonto…is that so wrong?

Post # 6
2100 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

This post is soooo relatable!! 

I’m really sorry…I really get it. I think becoming engaged really showed me my true friends…something I never expected. As exciting as it’s been, it’s been painful, too. It’s like some women think I only want my soon to be husband as my only friend. That isn’t healthy or what I want. But I had one friend tell me, when I started dating FI, that she knew I wanted to hang with him all the time, so she didn’t invite me to an event and I promptly corrected her. 🙁

Two friends just up and fell off the face of the earth when I got engaged. One was really, really mean. I wish we could just talk but she ignores me, so I let it go. 

I do have other girls but we aren’t close. They are sweet people but have their own lives too. One dear friend has gone above the norm…I’m so appreciating her but b/c her current schedule it’s not like when we were both single. It happens. 

I shed tears a lot about it. 

Post # 7
4601 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I can relate as well. 

I never had many friends growing up, and when I moved two hours away, it didn’t help matters. I have three friends, all of them are parents, and only one lives in my city, and she only recently moved back from Texas after splitting with her husband. I know that she has a lot of things going on for her right now, but she’s been back a week and I see her post on Facebook about hanging out with everyone, except for me. She doesn’t respond to my texts, calls or Facebook messages, and when she does, she always backs out on any plans that we have. It hurts, because I consider her to be a good friend. My other friend only lives an hour away, but she works all the time, and when she’s not working, she’s busy with her October wedding. I understand this, because I’m running around with my wedding too, but I miss hanging out with her. My last friend lives two hours away and all she’s worried about is her boyfriend. She will go weeks without talking to me, which is a bit hurtful because we’ve been friends so long and because she’s also my MOH. 

I love FH, and he is one of my best friends, but I miss girl time. I get more upset about it now because I am stressed about school, money and the wedding, and I feel like I’m doing everything myself. It’s tough, and I hate feeling lonely.

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