Feeling very emotional and upset

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8282 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aw…it gets very overwhelming. So sorry to hear about your bridesmaids. I would never have offered to pay for makeup or hair, so you’re a better bride than I was. 

Hang in there! 

Post # 4
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7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@dreamer1288:  Sorry you’re stressed. RSVPs are a tough one, but you still have two weeks. Did you set a deadline? If so, stick by that deadline and then do some calling (with help from your FI).

In the end it isn’t the number of people that come, and you will get your numbers in in time. Would you really cancel the wedding right now and elope? Seriously? I don’t think you would, especially if your FI is fine with what is going on.

Just relax and try to let things go. Deadline is approaching, people know when it is, and if it comes and you don’t have all your RSVPs in, you just have some work to do.

Post # 6
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1248 posts
Bumble bee

Ugh. I am so sorry. Start calling invited guests ASAP to get their RSVP. Dont text, dont email- CALL THEM!

As for your BM’s reiterate to them that they are getting the make up done- they cant back out now. They commited, and you reallyyyy need them to pay for it, or put up as much as they can for it. I know contracts are made to where if something happens, the crappy end is thrown to the bride, but i dont think thats fair. and if your BM’s really care, they’ll help with what they can, even if its not the full amount.

btw- i’m pmsing this week as well. i feel your pain!!!!

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@dreamer1288:  They all backed out? That’s weird. I agree with you, weddings are expensive and can often have a lot of drama. Eloping worked for us! 

Post # 8
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Helper bee

@dreamer1288:  Sounds like you need some pampering.. 🙂 Mani, maybe some dessert, and a massage… I hope things calm down a bit for you. Until then, keep your head high and don’t let anyone/ anything get you down! I know it’s hard when life throws us curve balls, but later on when you look back at this time, you will be happy  to remember how you put on your good face and ignored the nonsense. Afterall, the nonsense is only nonsense. It blinds us from all of the good sometimes…so get a good workout, burn some stress, have a nice shower, and you will be refreshed (I hope!). Best of luck!! <3

Post # 9
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231 posts
Helper bee

@MrsPanda99:  Did you ever have a wedding party/ reception? Or did you just elope? I sort of love when I hear about people who elope…it just seems terribly romantic or something. Maybe I’m just blinded by love, but lately everything sounds romantic 😉 That’s what getting engaged does I suppose! Haha

Post # 10
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@darlingbee:  Oh, boy. My story sucks. We are legally married and had no frills at all. We are actually planning an “elopement” with my parents as witnesses. It will be meaningful because my dad is sick. Originally we thought Jamaica, but he can’t travel. We also want our furmonster there. Next year, after the “official” ceremony, I will have much more romantic stories to tell!

We will not be having a reception – it will just be a low key dinner afterwards!

Post # 11
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729 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@dreamer1288:  Wow, I could have writen your post. I feel the EXACT same way :-/

Try dividing people up so your parents and FI have some people to call too. Then I just started texting/facebooking people to ask if they were coming. People wait til the last minute! 

Any chance you can cancel that makeup person and get a different one? So you’re not stuck paying for everyone?  Or ask them to pay half? 

Vent away here. I know thats what I do…

Post # 12
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231 posts
Helper bee

@MrsPanda99:  That’s great! Whatever works best for the both of you 🙂 And I don’t mean to be so nosey, but I’d love to know why you chose not to have a reception. By no means am I like, “What the heck?” I’m just geniunely curious. 🙂

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@darlingbee:  I guess because we really don’t care. We see my family all the time and it is massive. If I don’t want the cost of a wedding, I don’t want the cost of that either. The only thing that matters to us is the meaning of the day and a nice honeymoon. The rest is a waste in our opinion.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee

Fussing about bridesmaid make-up does seem like you’ve lost focus.  Just have them do their own– it will be ok.  Your day will not be ruined by their faces.  As for RSVPs, wait for the deadline and once it’s past, assume non-replies aren’t coming.

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