Post # 1
I’m feeling a iittle weird about my photographer, and just wanted to ask what you all think. We did our e-pics a few weeks ago, and they came out great! I was thrilled. My photographer is fairly new to the business, and she has been nothing but nice, cooperative and helpful, so far. Shortly after we got the e-pics, I got a request from her to write a review for her on Wedding Wire – which is fine, I don’t mind writing a review.
Now, what I’m feeling weird about – she was much, much less effusive and comlimentary about us when she posted the sneak peek of the e-pics on her blog (no comments about anticipating shooting our wedding in October, etc.). She has shot 7 other e-sessions, and they are all on their website as featured photos – ours are not. She, just today, posted on facebook that she is now sharing vendor space with another wedding vendor in the area who, in a total coincidence, happens to be a girl who bullied me in middle school. I just sort of feel like our photographer no longer likes us – which is really a bummer, when you’ve paid a vendor this much money. If she had already been sharing space with this other vendor, I never in a million years would have booked her. I also sort of feel like we aren’t attractive enough for her – my FI and I are both a little on the plus side, and all the other couples that she has shot seem very, very fit and thin.
I don’t know. Am I being insane? I’m just feeling really bad about myself right now.
Post # 3
ek, that’s so hard when you no longer trust your photographer emotionally.
The only advice that I can give is to sit down with your photog and FI and have a real honest discussion with her about your concerns. She may or may not think you’re crazy for thinking these things, but you have to address your feelings with her.
If nothing else, how much money would you lose if you went with another photographer for your wedding? Would you get all or part of the money back? It’s just very hard to trust your photographer with your weddings photos when you feel like they aren’t putting their best foot forward for you.
HUGS* you’ll get it worked out. Maybe it’s all just a big misunderstanding and she doesn’t feel this way at all!
Post # 4
@ktisthatbees: “that’s so hard when you no longer trust your photographer emotionally”. – Thanks for summing up exactly what I was trying to say. I feel like I sound insane and immature for feeling this way, but I think you are right – I need to sit down and talk to her. I’ve been stalling on writing the review, because I haven’t been feeling 100% positive about my experience with her so far, but at the same time, I don’t want to upset her. If I canceled her today, we would be out close to $1500, which…isn’t inconsequential, but isn’t really money I want to throw out the window, either. Thanks so much for responding – I’m going to think about my next step a little more.
Post # 5
I started to doubt my photographer’s pictures and how i felt around him so i decided to change photographers and lose the deposit… it was worth it to me because its your wedding! you cant not feel comfortable on your own day! just talk to her and if nothing changes, move on and find somewhere else. she is being petty if she doesn’t like you anymore because of this other girl who is still stuck on the past.
Post # 6
I could see where residual feelings about someone who bullied you could bother you.
But, if she’s listening to this other girl — she’s not a professional.
I would advise calling her. Ask her how she felt about the images, and express that you were sad you aren’t on the featured sessions. Someone so new would probably post every session. If you don’t get a good vibe, you should look around and see if you can find someone else.
Post # 7
I agree with previous posters. Either speak with her about your concerns or hire a new photographer. We switched photographers after e-pics but kept the original photographer on just for videography. It is worth it to me because it’s my wedding and pictures are important…
I wonder if it’s going to be ackward when he’s there filming next to his replacement. Oopsies.
Post # 8
I’m a photographer and I try to do good commentary on every blog post. I blog every couple too. Some photographers do not and that’s their choice.
I respect all my customers and treat them professionally, which is what your photographer is doing with you. She has delivered what is promised, in my opinion.
However, it can be hard to come up with great, amazing, long commentary for every couple. Some couples, you just click better with, if I’m being honest. For me, it doesn’t mean I don’t like all my couples, it just means we are more in a vendor/client relationship than friends.
Some couples engagement sessions are better for features as well, whether that be to the photogenic nature of the couple, their ease in front of the camera, a couple that is well-connected, an amazing location, a cool styled shoot, the couple’s choice of outfits, or even just the lighting that day. It happens that some sessions garner more attention or more new clients than others.
A professional churns out consistent results and treats all clients with respect. I’d rather write less about a couple personally than put in phony sentiments just to fill the blog and match the text of another couple’s post. To me, it isn’t a contest.
I would hope that my clients would enjoy their photos and not worry about being featured, etc. For example, I can only feature one large photo on my Facebook, so I had to pick someone. I can’t choose everyone and no one should be slighted about that-I pick the image that will sell and attract other brides. It doesn’t mean I didn’t like my other non-seelcted brides though! 🙂