(Closed) Feeling weird at work….(hopefully not too long)

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I tell my boss I am resigning in January?
    No....he already dinged you once : (23 votes)
    66 %
    Yes...he needs time to find a replacement : (6 votes)
    17 %
    Other...please explain : (6 votes)
    17 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I’m a little confused why getting married = resigning? Are you moving or something?

    Post # 4
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    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I hope that doesn’t sound rude, I’m just curious 🙂

    I’m thinking you should let him know so he can find your replacement… but on the other hand, you only really need to give 2 weeks notice, so you could hold off!

    Post # 5
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    7976 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’d say give him more than 2 weeks notice, but don’t tell him yet. It in incredibly unprofessional, IMO, that he treated you differently in the first place because you tried to help him out by giving him advance notice about your impending resignation.

    At the same time, this guy will be giving recommendations for you when you need them, so keep on his good side. When you do come clean, I’d be honest with him – “It was very difficult for me to choose to tell you early that I will be leaving to get married, because I felt that your treatment of me [not giving me the raise I deserved] when I thought I was getting married last year was unfair and unprofessional.”

    Post # 7
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    @jamaica – ohhhh ok 🙂 that makes sense now!

    Post # 8
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    1455 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    Give your two weeks, for someone who DISCRIMINATED against you when it came to pay, he deserves no more than that.

    Post # 10
    Member
    5498 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’d give him 2 weeks. HE jipped you once, and you don’t need to deal with that again.

    Post # 12
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    7311 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    2 weeks notice is sufficient.

    Post # 13
    Bee
    13577 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

    Based on everything you have said, 2 weeks notice is plenty. 

    Post # 14
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    553 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I understand how you feel bc I am planning on getting trying to get pregnant next year and that affects a lot of things in my job. I keep having this urge to tell people when they talk about deployments that I am scheduled to do next year. Ultimately I decided there was no need to say anything until it is a reality.

    Unfortunately you have already been treated unprofessionally based on the earlier incident and I suspect it would happen again. 

    All you need to do is be professional and give him two weeks notice. 

     

    Post # 15
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    4567 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Wow, I can’t believe he actually admitted that he didn’t give you as high of a raise as you deserved. Especially when your FI had stomach cancer. Not. Nice. 2 weeks would be more than enough… giving him til the end of the month is more than generous!

    Post # 16
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    1080 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    2 weeks is more than enough. ESP since you are already training a replacement (MUCH MUCH nicer than I would have been in this situation!)

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