- 3 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I feel awful for even posting this, but I am hoping other people will be able to bring clarity to how I feel.
I have been an animal lover my entire life. I’ve owned many different types of animals and found great satisfaction in caring for them and having them as part of my family.
Currently, we have a 5 year old English Setter. He was our “baby” before we had our daughter.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I love our dog. He’s fantastic….but since having our daughter 2 years ago, I do not have the same feelings of affection towards him as I used to, and it makes me feel really, really bad.
I still pat him, cuddle him, care for him properly, and treat him like an important part of our family (as does DH)– but it feels more like work now, than before I had kids.
The dog hair bothers me more, his smell (which used to be comforting) is bothersome, his bad habits bother me more. Maybe it’s because I am pregnant as well, but I am not nearly as patient with his constant demands for attention. He sticks his nose in my face and leans on me for cuddles, and some nights, it takes a lot of my energy to give him that affection. After my daughter goes to bed, I just want to be left alone, but he’s right there, wanting his turn to be cuddled. And yes, I do pay attention to him, but then I tell him to go lay down.
Any ways, enough rambling. Even DH said last night that he isn’t sure if he wants another dog after Rufus is gone (hopefully he’ll be around a long time yet though)! It just seems so energy draining to think about caring for two kids and a new puppy when that day comes. It’s tough enough now to wrangle him and my daughter when we go away for the weekend (he always comes with). I can’t imagine how difficult it will be with 2 kids. Also, when he occasionally pulls his “antics” my patience for it is SO thin. He’s generally a really good dog, but sometimes he’ll push the limits by taking off to the neighbours or stealing food, and when I am trying to also manage a 2 year old, I have no tolerance for the stuff that he does.
I just feel rotten. I love our dog to pieces, but the fact that it’s a *different* kind of love now that I have children, kind of upsets me.
Did anyone else’s feelings towards thier pets change after kids??