Post # 1
Kind of an unusual question but here goes! =) My better half grew up with a very bad stuttering problem. He worked very hard to correct much of the problem (and I’m so proud of him!!!) but he still has some trouble getting words out when he’s nervous or in the spotlight and it makes him extremely uncomfortable. I want him to be able to relax and enjoy our wedding day, not be freaking out about having to speak. Before I mention the option to him, I wanted to get a feeling for what you all thought about us pre-recording the mushy, personal part of our vows, perhaps with some soft music playing in the background, and then repeating the formal I-Do’s in person. I know that it would ease his mind to know he can say what he wants to say and not worry about "screwing it up" as he would say…and he can keep re-recording until it’s how he likes it. And we wouldn’t hear each other’s until the ceremony, so the emotional reactions would still be there. Any thoughts?
Post # 3
I think anything that will make the day easier on you two is a great idea. I love the idea of having music playing with it- that will be so nice and no one will think twice about it being prerecorded, I am sure they’ll be distracted by the lovely sentiments!
Post # 4
I think that would be a very good idea. Remember that your wedding is supposed to be personal and this is a very personal thing. Its up to him if he feels comfortable with it but I think he would be very happy that you thought about his worries and are trying to make things easier for him.
Post # 5
You could do the formal I do’s and then do one of those video to show at the reception or rehearsal dinner with photos of you as kids and you could record a special message to you and you to him. It would still be public but not as awkward as a recording might be during the ceremony.
Post # 6
I agree — you two should do absolutely whatever you’re most comfortable with. It would be a shame for him (or you, or anyone!) to be so worried about the ceremony that he couldn’t relax and enjoy the day.
Good luck! 🙂
Post # 7
I agree. I think it’s on of those things that you should do the way you want to. I bet many people there will understand the situation too. If you’re worried about catching people off guard because it’s unconventional, just put it in the program. That’s the best you can do to give them warning.
Post # 8
I think that’d be a great idea — I would think it would be best to not "embarass" him if you recorded yours as well, so as not to single him out of the situation. It could be done in a movie montage type of thing — I don’t know your budget (and it certainly isnt in mine) but you could even get someone to video tape the two of you saying your vows to each other.
Good luck, that sounds fun!