Feels Distracted and Confused

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Um, sounds like if there are issues 7 months in and you live so far he may be trying to cut you loose.  How often do you two see each other? 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

If you already have to resort to counseling so early in your relationship that is not a good sign, but since he is the one who initiated it I’m at a loss. I guess, in my opinion, a relationship shouldn’t be that much work so early in, and maybe he is realizing that?

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Seems like an awful lot of work so far only 7 months in :

 

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@SprinklesPink:  I’m with PPs that counseling 7 months in seems like a lot of work. While noble and great that you value your relationship, I think his comment is a way of saying that this feels like too much right now.

I would call him and talk to him about it because it would be better for this to end now than later when you both have much more invested into the relationship.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@mrs_pudding_pop:  +1. Counseling after 7 months? That shouldn’t happen. It’s the honeymoon phase! Long distance couples usually have an extended honeymoon phase due to seeing each other less than is “typical.” I wouldn’t want a relationship that caused me stress from the very beginning either. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wouldn’t go to counselling with someone I’d only been dating 7 months, thats a lot of effort to put into something that’s already not working.

 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

@KC-2722:  Exactly. 

If you’re going to counseling when you’re only dating, then it’s probably time to end the relationship. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@SprinklesPink:  yes, he is trying to end it. I am sorry and I know this must be painful – but I agree with the other bees, seems like things were not working out regardless. 7 months is still the honeymoon phase and everything should be easy and fun and lovey dovey. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Rhopalocera:  Yeah, especially under a year. I remember still being in the ‘honeymoon’ phase at that point, I know everyone has their issues.. but there shouldn’t be issues so big that you need counselling that soon.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Yes, he’s trying to end it & doesn’t have the decency or nerve to tell you in person.

I wouldn’t respond at all.  There is no way to do that without sounding desperate & needy.

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