(Closed) Feels like my friend is slipping away

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2006

So you have a BM who’s not that into your wedding, who lives a fairly good distance from you, and whom doesn’t seem that interested in hanging out with you any more.  I”m not really sure if you question is in regards to continuing the friendship or keeping her in your wedding? 

Trust me, I’ve been in weddings with “detatched” BM’s, they are the ones who miss dress rehearsal and show up never having gotten the memo that you were supposed to get your dress cut off to tea length, etc.  So if the big day is really important to you, you may have to either have one less bridesmaid or find someone about her size that can fit the dress (maybe you have an extended family member not already in the bridal party who can stand in?)

As far as continuing the friendship, I did read your previous post.  I guess the question is, would this be an issue if it weren’t mucking up your wedding plans?  If the answer is yes, then maybe the two of you have grown apart.  Friendships can have life cycles just like everything else in nature.  If the answer is no, then maybe address the wedding issue and let the friendship thing coast along for a bit.  A friend of mine had a BM who acted this way, who dropped out of the wedding after we had all ordered our dresses except her, because she never had the “time” to get fitted. Turned out the gal didn’t really have the money to be in the wedding party and was actually preggo and didn’t want that getting out either. So there are all kinds of reasons this can happen.

Also, you don’t mention it that I see, but it’s possible she is now hooked on drugs as well.  Maybe it is obvious and she doesn’t want you to see her . .

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