Post # 1
Hey girls… so I mad
e the number one big no no mistake… I went to a store and told them my budget was more than it actually was, just so I could try on what I want… to newly engaged girls DON’T DO IT. EVER. I don’t care what you’re reasoning is.
Mine was valid too – I was in New York and in less than three months I’d be moving MN, so I wasn’t planning on purchasing my dress while still living in NY. I just wanted to go look and try on dresses just for fun with my girls.
Buttttt… of course it happened, I saw the dress. tried it on. and fell in love with it. It couldn’t have been more perfect for me, St. Pucchi was the designer – it was her trunk show that weekend, I even met her, what a wonderful lady! She hand makes all her dresses (this was a couture shop on 5th Avenue in NYC).
The dress: $8,200. My budget? $1,000. Yeah, not happening. I will never do that again, especially cause now whenever I go dress shopping – I never love anything anymore because I unconsciously compare EVERYTHING to my dream dress..
Have any of you ever fallen in love with a dress out of budget? [attachment=590700,77200]
Post # 3
Yes, but it’s within the “reasonable” range outside of the budget 😉 Not $7200 over.
Post # 4
- Wedding: March 2010 - Ritz-Carlton, Half Moon Bay
oh no! it happens a lot. however, at least you can feel good about purchasing a different dress since the st. pucchi is so out out of budget. don’t worry, you’ll find another that you love!
Post # 5
I did! I did! The first dress I tried on I saw in a magazine, and when I saw myself in it, I knew it was the dress for me. It was perfect. It was also about $3K over my budget. I seriously contemplated re-arranging the budget to accommodate this dress. My husband (FI then) even agreed to it because he said my face lit up when I talked about it. I tried on several more dresses after that appointment, and I knew the first was the one. And like, I tried on a TON of dresses.
But, I just couldn’t justify spending that much on a dress. I ended up going with a tea-length simple dress that I loved (not quite as much, but I did truly feel beautiful in it). But, I wasn’t able to purchase a gown-gown without getting the first one out of my head. Sigh.
When girls face this dilemma, I usually tell them “No matter what on your wedding day, you’ll feel beautiful.” I’m pretty sure that most girls could wear the best dress they have in their closet right now on their wedding day and still feel amazing. I completely understand brides who go for the dream dress. BUT, I also think that it’s okay to not get the dream dress and settle on something that’s a very, very good choice for the sake of saving the money. You truly do only wear the dress once, and the money you save could be put toward something else that will last forever. Like photos 🙂
Post # 6
I tried on a similar St.Pucchi dress without knowing the price…Also $8K. I As soon as I heard the price took it off right away and didn’t let myself even consider it. Good thing they didnt let me take a photo, so I have no clear memories of the dress. My suggestion : Get rid of the photo. Don’t think about it. Keep telling yourself no dress is worth that much.
You’ll find another dress you’ll love. Watters has some dresses with a similar flower petal motif if you like that.
Post # 7
I did! And I moved the wedding in order to be able to afford it. That’s an option, too.
Post # 8
@meliss, I kept the photo because I’ve been trying to find someone who can make either a replica of the dress, or bring the picture with me so that I can show it to bridal consultants. But St. Pucchi sure does make gorgeous dresses!
@KLP2010, yeah the bridal consultant I had was so amazing and sweet and they all loved the dress on me that they worked so hard to bring the cost down so I could afford it. They ended up cutting the price by nearly HALF for me… and I considered it very seriously… even though it was nearly the budget of my whole wedding haha. but in the end I decided, I am only wearing the dress for one day – and not only that, but I knew I wouldn’t have a job after November to help pay for it.
@Miss Chapstick, you spoke such sweet words, thank you so much for your encouragement! I’m glad you still felt beautiful and had a special day even throughout the disappointment.
Post # 9
That happened just now. I found a store that carried the dress of dreams (I made a post about a day or two ago). I look stunning in it and they can order it in plenty of time for my wedding. The only problem is that it is 3 times the cost I wanted to spend on a dress. Now I’m torn. Because while that goes exceedingly outside my budget, it is still attainable…but it may hurt me later. My dream dress is $900. I was hoping to find something I liked for $350 or less. Perhaps I was unrealistic, but I really don’t want to spend more on a dress than I did my computer!
Post # 10
Oh that is so sad! I can honestly say I know how you feel! After they cut down the price for me, I thought of putting it all on credit, and paying monthly for it…even though that goes against all I stand for fiscally haha. but I needed to be practical. I hope you can make the right decisions..
If you know the designer and style of the dress – look on oncewed.com and preownedweddingdresses.com – they both sell used dresses – maybe you can find your dress there? If the dress is nearly 1k – used they sell around your goal price.
Also google consignment dress stores in your area, I went to one in NYC where all their dresses were less than 1k and a lot were originally over 5k.
Good luck and I hope you are able to have your wedding of your dreams, including the dress 🙂
Post # 11
Would you consider trying to find a sample dress so it would be cheaper? It will have some wear and tear from brides trying it on but it should be cheaper.
Or what about seeing if a fellow bride has this dress and is welling to sell it to you.
I know, girls want the brand new dress but if you really love this dress maybe you could consider other options to make this dress the one you could afford.
Post # 12
I search the used wedding dress sites daily! and the dress I tried on, was a sample dress lol. It was still nearly 5k though. I don’t think I will ever find that dress for less than 1k. So I have to just let it go and move on. My wedding is in five months, so I have to get moving!
Post # 13
Yes that hapened to me!!!!! I had always told myself that I never wanted to spend over $1000 for a dress (actually first thought more like $500, but this was before I was engaged and realized how much most dresses really cost) However, after flipping thru my very first bridal magazines, I found “the one”…a beautiful Jim Hjelm lace vneck, EVERYTHING I wanted….I don’t know the exact price, but it’s at least $3500 🙁 I hadn’t tried it on, so I convinced myself that it might not look that good….
so I started looking at other dresses, but it seemed like no one else compared to this dress….if FI (or mom) had said it was okay to get the expensive dress, I prob would have…. I have found a dress very similar and 1/7 of the price!!!!!!!!! I’m going dress shopping next week, so I hope it looks as good as I imagine it to!
but I agree with chapstick in that you’ll feel beautiful no matter what….afterall, you are marrying the man of your dreams!!
Post # 14
@miss lovebug – you and chapstick are right… I heard a saying from one bride who said, “I don’t believe in a dress of your dreams, I believe in the man of your dreams.”
That puts things into perspective! It’s so true. At the end of the day, I’m married to the man I love more than anything – and not even a dress can lessen how perfect that is to me.
I hope you love your dress! I’m going dress shopping next week!