Post # 1
Hi hive, I really need some advice here. I’m going to sound like a whining spoiled brat but if it’s true do tell me so I can get to my senses and make the right decision.
I’m very grateful that my parents and SO’s parents have granted us with a pretty generous budget for our wedding and so far we have worked pretty well with it. Until I fell in love with a photog that was wayyyyy out of my budget.
I’m having a destination wedding, we’re getting married halfway across the globe where my parents and all my extended family lives.
So, for the photog we were originally going with the same person that did my brother’s wedding. He’s one of the most famous and hard to book photogs in the city (I’d even say country..it’s a small country) for his non-conventional, artistic saturated colors and does the best candid photos. He really clicked with my family from my brother’s wedding and he told me that in the future he’d make himself available to do mine. He’s also done so many weddings in the city so he claims to know the best spots and images for every venue. Since he’s local and the cost of living in that country is so cheap compared to in the US his package is around $1000.
However, due to my 3 year engagement I was tempted to look around here in the US and happened to fall in love with a photog based in New York. I love her style, her pictures are very contemporary and artistic and I clicked with her personality. She quoted me $6500 to do my wedding (for the shoot, air tickets and accommodation).
I really don’t want to ask for any more money from my parents so if I go for her I’d have to save up that extra $5500. A part of me thinks I’m being ridiculous because both I and SO are going back to school for our PhD and will need a lot help from our families. Already our parents’ help allowed us to keep all of our savings these past years to be used towards our future 5 years in school, and still on top of that we’ll need more financial support from our parents if we don’t get enough funding or scholarship form the University. Another part of me is just a spoiled brat that wants her favorite photog. Am I being too irrational? Should I just move on and go with the local photog?
here’s a link to the photogs I’m talking about. Thank you all in advance!
$ 1000 photog (Local photog) [WARNING FROM MR. BEE – GOOGLE HAS THIS TO SAY ABOUT THIS LINK: The website at http://www.artofaud.com contains elements from the site dodo.busop.info, which appears to host malware – software that can hurt your computer or otherwise operate without your consent]
$ 6500 photog (My favorite photog)
Post # 3
I didn’t explore too much… but my initial impression is that I like the local photog better. The style is maybe a little more traditional…. but i’m not a fan of the over-saturation thing that seems to be characteristic of the nyc photog. Granted, it is totally a stylistic preference. Regardless… i would not pay an extra 5500 🙂
Post # 4
I think it just really depends on how important photography is to you and how much more you like the expensive photographer over the local one. It’s hard for anyone else to really tell you whether or not this is something that you could / should spend YOUR money on.
I’d weigh the pros and cons of each, think about how much/not so much you liked the photos from your brother’s wedding, compare those to photos from your other photographer, look at you and your FI’s budget and see how feasible saving the money even is, etc.
Personally, I think if you like the style / photos of the local photographer, then you should probably go with that. It sounds like you’re getting a great deal and you’ve personally seen his work before. He is right about knowing the area and knowing good, fun, unique, etc spots that the NY photographer won’t. But if you don’t like his style – don’t settle. You want to make sure you like your photos since you only get one chance!
Post # 5
To be honest, I like the local photographer better.
Maybe you can compromise and have the local do the wedding and have the one you love to engagment pictures or couple pictures after the wedding? maybe even boudior since she does those 😉
But, I’m with Corgi..I wouldn’t spend that type of money. And photography is one of my must haves
Post # 6
I was going to suggest paying for the 2nd photographer yourselves, since your family and FILs are paying for the wedding, but then I read further and saw that you are PhD students. You are already getting a lot of support-wedding and school/living wise. Is it really the style of the photos you like, or is it the style of the wedding you like? If your wedding has a really different laid-back (beachy theme?) I think that a ton of modern artistic type photos might be a little bit strange but can be done. How soon before the wedding will you be arriving at your destination? Could the first photographer do some pre-wedding modern-artistic e-type photos of you and FI a day or two before the wedding? Or could you send some him the link of the other photographer’s work and see what he thinks he can do with the areas he already knows where you will be located? Do you could maybe work around your dilemma with the first photographer? Best Wishes.
Post # 7
I like the local photographer better. Just MHO. 🙂
Post # 8
I didn’t look at either of the photographers’ sites, but based on the financial situation you’ve described, I think you need to stick with the local photographer and move on. You said yourself that the NYC one is out of your budget. It’s never a good idea to go into debt over a wedding, especially when you’re both about to go back to school.
Post # 9
100% Go with Anglica Glass!! It is obvious that photography is important to you. You get one shot at this day. Your photos are your memories of this day and you don’t want to look at your photos and wonder “what if I had hired her?”. I’ve been following her blog for a while now and her work is a total inspiration to me. It also sounds like you got a great deal. I probably wouldn’t ask your family to pay for her when they want to pay for someone else, but if you can figure out to do it I would go with who you love. I’m not saying the other guy is not amazingly talented and you wouldn’t be satisfied. But as we all know there is a big difference then being satisfied and totally in love. At least the photos are an investment you will have for the rest of your life.
Post # 10
I really like both photographers, but given your financial situation, I would say go with the local one, hands down. He’s got great style and you know already know he is great to work with (which is so hugely important!0 so you’ll feel comfortable with him. Maybe you could show him some of your favorite shots from the other photographer and see if he’d be willing to try some of those. Most of the photographers I’ve talked to are willing/excited to try something new and to experiment with a new style. I also agree with the other bees that if you love the NYC style, maybe you could do an engagement session or a session after your wedding. 🙂
Post # 11
I really like your local photographer’s work, I think you have an AMAZING deal already! He knows the area, which is awesome. He can guide you to awesome beautiful places & will know the ins/outs of the city. He “clicks” with you & your fam (which is a big plus). His pricing is very good!
Do you love the local one’s work? Or are you looking cause you don’t really like his work?
Have you heard of “trash the dress”? You can see if the NY photographer will do a trash the dress session (this doesn’t mean you destroy/damage your dress & I can explain more if you’d like) with you after your wedding. I bet you could use that $5500 & fly to NY some weekend & do the trash the dress shoot with the NY photog. Or some other type of shoot with them & you’d still have money leftover & a minivacation 🙂
Post # 11
What I would do is email the NYC photog and explain the situation–that you love her, but she’s out of your budget; is there any way you guys can work out a package that would fit your budget. She might not be able to bargain that much, or even if she does come down it might still be too expensive. But it doesn’t hurt to ask!
Another question is, are you happy with the local photog? You say that he does “the best candids” and he did a great job at your brother’s wedding. But are you excited about having him as YOUR photog?
Post # 12
You can also ask the NYC photog for recommendations for photogs who have a similar style but who might be less expensive/have less expensive packages.
Post # 13
I’m not sure where you live, but this is my suggestion:
– go with the local photog for the actual wedding. The pictures are really good, and you are going to be happy with them.
– do a studio session with Glass. Take a trip with FI, bring the dress, and have the artistic session it sounds like you really want. It will be much cheaper, but you’ll still get those amazing shots you are desiring.
Post # 14
If you don’t want to ask your parents for the extra money (and that is A LOT of extra), and you can’t afford it yourself, I think that’s your answer right there, regardless of their work. If you’re not crazy about the local photographer, could you continue looking for a third option? Photography is one of my top priorities for our wedding, so I totally get the longing you’re feeling, but if you can’t afford her, you can’t afford her. Wedding photography is important, but not worth going into debt over.
Post # 15
i think the end result will be fantastic either way. most photo’s they have taken before either won’t be taken at yours, or will be captured differently. keep that in mind. your wedding is different, and your photo’s will be too even if you try to acheive the exact same shot 🙂 hope you can figure it out.. tough decision