No judgement or condemnation here, just my two cents…
I agree with you. And let me remind you that nothing is impossible for God, I know you say you don’t expect it to be easy but God is able to do exceedingly and abundantly more than we could ever hope or ask for, so have faith and trust in that. Timing is everything and at the right time you will get what God has for you. God loves to bless his people especially those that obey to walk in his will and sacrifice for him like he sacrificed for US, so STOP expecting it to be hard!
My belief is that, the bible was written by men inspired by God and led by the holy spirit. It’s our instructional guide on how to live. It says sex should be enjoyed only within the marriage and I believe it means exactly that. It’s very clear.
I say this as someone who has indulged prior to my SO, with my SO and have since chosen to abstain completely until marriage because I decided that my commitment to obey and honor God is my priority, versus my desire to please SO or myself. I realize that others may not share this same view. That’s between you and God.
And I’m not saying its the easiest thing in the world to do. But God makes the impossible possible and with the ways he has blessed me with SO and other things all i wanna do is try my best to bless him back out of sheer gratitude.
When I felt the conviction to stop sleeping with SO, I did not want to listen! He was the best thing that ever happened to me and I was sure taking this out of the relationship would cause a strain and end things for sure. But God sees and knows what we do not, so I trust him, and it was Hard but it did NOT ruin our relationship AT ALL.
SO actually told me that now we get to see what our relationship is really made off and if we can survive based on our frienship and connection, and it has been amazing because we now see that what we have is deeper than the physical and has been proven! The bible says draw near to God, and he will draw near to you. He will give you strength for whatever you need, he just needs the chance to show you.
If you are feeling conviction you will know, guilt, uneasiness, however it comes your way, the holy spirit will try to communicate it to you if your spiritual eyes and ears are open and if your heart is truly receptive to be obedient to God.
We are all at different stages of growth. It took me 32 years off and on to get where I am today and I’m STILL a work in progress, no one is perfect…but this is what I believe with all my heart and with God’s help I will remain abstinent until marriage.
What I am saying is that decisions become easier when your will to please God outweighs the will to please all else.
Again, no judgement or condemnation, I’m just sayin…