I know this thread is old, but I just had to comment, as I know this is a big thing for Christian believers still.
Although I know from the media that 80% of Christians in relationships are sleeping with each other prior to marriage, I’m still very surprised by the responses. I guess no wonder there is no difference between the outcomes of Christian marriages and non-Christian marriages.
I’m sorry if this sounds harsh, but please believe that there is no judgment intended at all; but sometimes I think as Christians our willingness to not offend makes us condone sin which is unhelpful to the person in the situation, as sin has consequences. Whether you love each other or not, sin is sin, and the consequences of still apply.
The consequences of sin do not get suspended because two people love each other.
God has a beautiful and perfect plan for each and every one of us, and the devil comes to steal, kill and destroy and keep us from the perfect plan and purposes of God for our lives. When we sow in lustful desires of the flesh we sow into the kingdome of this world, and cannot expect to reap full benefits of the kingdom of God. If I sow in my garden, I cannot reap in my neighbours garden, it just doesn’t work that way. God has promised you so much and compromising that (which is what sin is, a separation) is a huge sacrifice to make for any reason.
The bible says in Galatians 6:7-9 :-
Do not be deceived, God is not mocked [He will not allow Himself to be ridiculed, nor treated with contempt nor allow His precepts to be scornfully set aside]; for whatever a man sows, this and this only is what he will reap. For the one who sows to his flesh [his sinful capacity, his worldliness, his disgraceful impulses] will reap from the flesh ruin and destruction, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life. Let us not grow weary or become discouraged in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap, if we do not give in.
Please ladies, let’s reject the lie of the devil that because you love each other it is not sin, or that you can handle the consequences, the devil doesn’t play fair. Sex is God’s idea, and was created for marriage where it is beautiful and blessed. Sex outside of marriage is not blessed; it is gratifying the flesh at the expense of the spirit as a believer.
You say it’s hard, yes it could be, but it is not impossible. With the help of the Holy Spirit two of you waiting can be a beautiful and even exciting thing. Getting to know and love each other for who you are
Keep your heart and eyes on Jesus and not on your Fiance/ partner, and you will find that it is easier than you think.
Me – fell in this area once but have repented and gotten up again with wisdom and the Holy Spirit as our enabler.