Fellow LGBT-bees: which finger are you going to wear your rings on?

posted 3 years ago in LGBTQ
  • poll: Which finger will you wear your ring(s) on?
    Left hand : (36 votes)
    88 %
    Right hand : (3 votes)
    7 %
    Other (please specify) : (2 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    92 posts
    Worker bee

    I voted left hand, because my partner is FTM trans. We try to stay as “traditional” as possible for the outside world Wink

    Post # 4
    10454 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I’m completely ignorant about this.  Why do some couples choose to wear them on their right hands?

    Post # 7
    3077 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2015

    @AB Bride:  I have never heard of wearing them on any finger but your left ring finger. I would be willing to bet it is an american thing if it’s really much of a thing (not just NPH making a point) since in canada, it’s legal.

    @Stack_Squared:  reading that article, the very first comment summed up my entire thought process: How does one know if their wedding ring is a gay wedding ring? Lol
    I find the title of that article off-putting.

    I’m wearing it on my left ring finger, as is my SO. I don’t see the point of having a wedding/engagement ring and not putting it on the one finger people know to look at to see if you’re taken. It IS afterall, a symbol. My 2 cents.

    Post # 8
    274 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Interesting, I have actually only seen gay/lesbian couples wearing bands on the right-hand (not the left).

    Post # 11
    608 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @Stack_Squared:  Different parts of the world do different things…for instance in Germany the ring is worn on the right hand

    Post # 12
    10454 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Stack_Squared:  Everyone I know wears them either on their left hand, or on a necklace (usually because it’s in the way for work).

    Post # 13
    3432 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    @Stack_Squared:  I don’t particularly understand wanting to wear the ring on a different hand just because the couple is of the same gender.  But in your girlfriend’s situation, wearing the ring on the right hand would be perfectly understandable.  I would think her feelings about her finger would outrank a slightly nontraditional placement of the ring.

    Post # 14
    249 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - FMILs back yard

    We’re wearing ours on our left hands. We are very into the whole “I’m wearing this ring to let everyone know I’m married” and where I live, rings on the right hand would just not get the job done. 

    Plus, the ring is much more important to me than it is to her and I’ve just grown up my whole live never wearing a ring on my left ring finger because I was taught to reserve that for my “special ring”. So wearing it there is something I’ve always looked forward to. 

    Post # 15
    3199 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Stack_Squared:  i work with a gay-run company, and a LOT of our members wear their rings on their right hands. its not 100% that way, but i have definitely noticed it. its up to you, i think!

    Post # 16
    1173 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    It sounds like it would be most reasonable for your girlfriend to wear the ring(s) on her right hand, due to her unique situation and what she feels comfortable with. I don’t think you both have to wear them on your right hands though – you do whatever makes sense to you!

    I just wanted to chime in though, and say that I am Serbian-Canadian and Serbians wear wedding rings on the right hand; as previously mentioned, in is done that way in many countries such as Germany, Spain, etc. (not sure why) but I also know that it’s done anywhere that has a large Christian Orthodox poulation, like Serbia.

    In short, if I saw rings that looked like wedding/engagement rings on someone’s right hand, I would just assume that they are married and not necessarily LGBT.

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