Post # 1
I’m a waiting bee who spends way too much time shopping for engagement and wedding rings and I recently came across a picture of Neil Patrick Harris and his partner wearing what looks like matching wedding rings but on their right hands – so I googled it and apparently it’s fairly common for LGBT couples to wear their wedding rings on their right hand, so I wanted to ask: Fellow LGBT-bees, which finger are you going to wear your rings on?
I look forward to hearing from you 🙂
Post # 3
I voted left hand, because my partner is FTM trans. We try to stay as “traditional” as possible for the outside world
Post # 4
I’m completely ignorant about this. Why do some couples choose to wear them on their right hands?
Post # 5
From what I read online, to make a political statement that gay marriage isn’t yet federally recognized, or to make a larger statement that gay marriage is similar to but not totally the same as hetero marriage…something about resonance http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kathryn-hamm/which-finger-for-my-gay-w_b_1236772.html
I’m not sure how I feel about it – I understand the sentiment but marriage is marriage yeah? I’m also in a weird situation because my gf is missing a knuckle on her left ring finger (boooo! why that one?!) and refuses to wear a ring on it.
Post # 6
@Stack_Squared: Is it just an American thing then?
Post # 7
@AB Bride: I have never heard of wearing them on any finger but your left ring finger. I would be willing to bet it is an american thing if it’s really much of a thing (not just NPH making a point) since in canada, it’s legal.
@Stack_Squared: reading that article, the very first comment summed up my entire thought process: How does one know if their wedding ring is a gay wedding ring? Lol
I find the title of that article off-putting.
I’m wearing it on my left ring finger, as is my SO. I don’t see the point of having a wedding/engagement ring and not putting it on the one finger people know to look at to see if you’re taken. It IS afterall, a symbol. My 2 cents.
Post # 8
Interesting, I have actually only seen gay/lesbian couples wearing bands on the right-hand (not the left).
Post # 9
@AB Bride: You know, I couldn’t tell you – I’m as American (and as gay) as can be and just read about this today. Is it uncommon for couples (gay or straight) to wear their rings on the right hand in Canada? I believe that in Europe some people wear them on the right hand, in Spain for example.
@soontobemrsm11: Excellent point, marriage is marriage is marriage.
@sweetbutdemanding: Really! In Alabama? I wonder if maybe it’s more common in states that don’t have legalized gay marriage? I’m in Boston so I wouldn’t know anything about that
I’m curious who voted “other” – which finger? lol
Post # 10
@Stack_Squared: I had no idea about this. Greeks wear them on our right hands too.
Post # 11
@Stack_Squared: Different parts of the world do different things…for instance in Germany the ring is worn on the right hand
Post # 12
@Stack_Squared: Everyone I know wears them either on their left hand, or on a necklace (usually because it’s in the way for work).
Post # 13
@Stack_Squared: I don’t particularly understand wanting to wear the ring on a different hand just because the couple is of the same gender. But in your girlfriend’s situation, wearing the ring on the right hand would be perfectly understandable. I would think her feelings about her finger would outrank a slightly nontraditional placement of the ring.
Post # 14
- Wedding: September 2014 - FMILs back yard
We’re wearing ours on our left hands. We are very into the whole “I’m wearing this ring to let everyone know I’m married” and where I live, rings on the right hand would just not get the job done.
Plus, the ring is much more important to me than it is to her and I’ve just grown up my whole live never wearing a ring on my left ring finger because I was taught to reserve that for my “special ring”. So wearing it there is something I’ve always looked forward to.
Post # 15
@Stack_Squared: i work with a gay-run company, and a LOT of our members wear their rings on their right hands. its not 100% that way, but i have definitely noticed it. its up to you, i think!
Post # 16
It sounds like it would be most reasonable for your girlfriend to wear the ring(s) on her right hand, due to her unique situation and what she feels comfortable with. I don’t think you both have to wear them on your right hands though – you do whatever makes sense to you!
I just wanted to chime in though, and say that I am Serbian-Canadian and Serbians wear wedding rings on the right hand; as previously mentioned, in is done that way in many countries such as Germany, Spain, etc. (not sure why) but I also know that it’s done anywhere that has a large Christian Orthodox poulation, like Serbia.
In short, if I saw rings that looked like wedding/engagement rings on someone’s right hand, I would just assume that they are married and not necessarily LGBT.