(Closed) Fellow long-term relationshipers… did marriage feel any different to you?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Nope, it’s pretty much the same. But that’s cool with me, because it was awesome before and I was hoping nothing would change.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Not really no! We had been together for just over 6.5 years on our wedding day!

 I do think there is an extra layer of security that comes along with marriage that we both feel. But it’s not a noticeable difference just a feeling we get every now and then!

Congrats on your marriage CaitMarae

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Nope, not at all. I think once I started changing my name, it hit me more. Something my aunt told me: if you were always honest and true in your relationship, marriage doesn’t change anything. if you have been together for years, and marriage changes something, then you probably have issues that need to be resolved.

Not exactly what she said, but you get the point

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I hope nothing changes after the big day – I love how we are now.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Nope not really. Our situtaion was pretty much like yours. I do love to see his ring on his finger though 🙂 I wasnt expecting it to feel or be any different though

@MrsSl82be: I like that. Makes sense to me 🙂

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Same here–we moved in together earlier this year and that was probably the biggest change, but as we had been together so long it was an easy transition. The weirdest thing for me after the wedding (it’s only been 2 weeks) is the name change, but I love it! And it’s not as difficult as I thought it would be.

Everything feels the same, maybe even more lovier, if that’s possible. As much as I was ready 2 years ago, having waited this long was like an extra security blanket. I’m actually happy that nothing feels different because if the rest of our relationship (aka Life) is like this and doesn’t change then we will have a really happy life 🙂

@pinkb: I agree–I love seeing a ring on his finger! It’s different, because he never wore any jewelry before, but I know it’s there for me and it always makes me smile 🙂

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

We lived together before we got married too. And nothing really changed after the wedding. Except now he’s my husband.  I love that word:) Oh, I think it’s really sweet that wears his ring all the time.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@MrsSl82be: What your aunt told you is a really cool idea :). DH and I didn’t live together before, but I’ve noticed that our relationship isn’t even that different, I just don’t go home at night. We’re learning to be a little more collaborative due to living together, but everything is fundamentally similar.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I actually didn’t feel that different and my dh and I never lived together before marriage. We were together for so long and the only difference I could see was that I was wearing another ring. Even though we didn’t live together we still made most decisions after consulting each other.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We hadn’t dated nearly as long as you guys (about 2 years when we got engaged, together 3 years when we got married), but I had the same feeling when we got back from our honeymoon-everything felt the same! Even the morning after the wedding…I still felt amped up from the night before, but our relationship felt the same. To me, the changes have been very gradual, and it’s not really anything specific that I can put my finger on. More just a sense of being settled down with each other, and more like a team. But then again, that might have happened over time, irregardless of whether we got married. Congrats, btw, on the wedding–can’t wait to see pics!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@UpstateCait: Oh, I got SO many “It’s about time”s, both verbal and in our wedding book, etc. Either way we are happy knowing that we’re in it for the long haul, not just because of lust or anything. (Not that ppl can’t have a successful marriage after dating for a short period of time!)

I feel like it was a bigger change going from dating to engaged in a way because that was when the commitment for life really happened. The marriage was a way for us to show this in front of everyone but at the engagement I knew my life was really changing 🙂

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I felt a stronger bond.  I felt giddy for the first week, and then back to reality. 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

I am in the same situation, I am not married yet but when we do get married we will have been together for 7 years and living together for 4 years. I don’t expect anything to be any different except that we can move forward into the next stage of our life (starting a family and whatnot). I am looking forward to it.

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