Female Groomswoman

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I was my brother’s “Best Maid”. I wore a dress different than the bridesmaids’, which I chose and which still fit in their color scheme. Unless she explicitly says she wants to wear a suit, I would definitely put her in a dress and give her the same boutonniere that the men are wearing (if any). No one will be confused about her role.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wanted to add that my SIL’s brother was the “Man-of-Honor” at the wedding. No one considered putting him in a birdesmaid dress, so why would you put the groomswoman in a suit?;)

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I plan to have my best male friend (besides FI!) stand next to me, so I just want to say I think the Groomswoman is an awesome idea!

I think a dress because it might look more formal (if that is what you want) but perhaps in something slightly different, but co-ordinating with the bridesmaids? – unless you think she can pull off a “Rory Gilmore” look.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Hausfrau:  This, except that instead of a boutineer, I would give her a wrist corsage in the same style as the bouts, unless she wants to wear a suit. Only reason I say the wrist corsage over the bout is that depending on the dress, a boutineer might not work well. If the dress lends itself to something pinned on it, I would do a pinned corsage in the same style of the bouts.

That’s just my personal tastes. I feel that boutineers are for boys and corsages are for girls, or rather boutineers are more masculine (and suits fall under masculine), and corsages are more feminine (and dresses fall under feminine). Yes, there are feminine suits, but I would assume if she opted for a suit, it would be in the same style as the other groomsmen’s suits (so masculine).

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

MeghanFly:  Unless she dresses in a masculine manner the rest of the time I would sincerely hope she isn’t wearing a masculine type suit!  Just because I am female doesn’t mean I would dress like a guy if I stood on a guy’s side of the wedding.  If a woman doesn’t identify in a masculine/manly manner she would look ridiculous dressed as a man and probably be embarrassed.

The times I have seen women on the guy’s side they have usually had a black (or color matching the tuxes/suits) dress in the same style as the BM’s.  You don’t have to do that, but it looked really nice and cohesive.

If she wants to wear a suit then she should wear a nice taylored women’s suit (again, unless she identifes male) that complements the guys side.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@rrweddingday15:  when a friend of mine was married, the grooms sister stood on his side, she was dressed exactly as a bridesmaid, and had a bridesmaid bouquet. The only main difference is that she stood on his side rather than her side, and it was gorgeous!

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Dress her in a similar length dress to your bridesmaids, but in a colour similar to the groomsman’s suits.

Take a look at some of these great examples:

Post # 11
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Everdeen:  These examples look great!

We don’t have opposite sex friendships, so this would never work for us. I like those pictures though! 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

How about a dress with a nice blazer over top then you can pin the bout on the blazer? Or a nice feminie pants suit? My fiance’s siseter wears male clothing so she will be in a mens suit but I’m thinking your case is a little different then mine haha

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

my brother stood on my side– we didn’t do matching outfits for the wedding party though, but everyone looked fantastic!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We’re just dressing all female bridal party members the same and all male bridal party members the same regardless of which side they stand on. So our order will go:

Tux, Tux, Dress, Dress, Dress, Gown, Tux, Tux, Tux, Tux, Dress, Dress

I think if you only have one person separate then the ideas that Everdeen posted are awesome, but since we have a bunch, we’re just matching all over the place.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We don’t have pro pics back yet, but my husband’s best man was a best woman. 🙂 All my girls (I included her in the dress purchasing) picked out their own dresses, so she wore the same color but a different dress and stood on his side. She had a bigger and more unique bouquet than my bridesmaid (I had one MoH one bridesmaid). In fact, I had two bridesmen. 🙂 My two guys wore the same tux as the groomsmen and just had slightly different boutonnieres. It was awesome because my two best friends are guys and it meant the world to me to have them standing with me. 😀

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

DH and I had his sister as our “Best Man” (Best Maid lol).  We put her in the same dress as the bridesmaids, just in the guys’ color.  It worked great!

ETA – We gave her a corsage of one white rose, too, rather than a bouquet.  The bridesmaids each had a small bouquet of white roses, so it matched.  I’d have given her a red rose corsage like the rest of the guys, but her dress was red and it would have clashed badly.  In the end, everything actually matched really well and looked far more thought-out and prepared than it was!

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