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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    Ok so I warn you this might be total TMI but  for over a year now i have noticed a change in my vaginal secretions. I have actually been to the GYNO about this twice and I have gotten physical exams and I have been tested for Every STD they could do ... both by swabs and cultures and blood work. Everything came back negative. My doctor is trying to assure me that everything is fine he even used the words ... "you have a perfectly normal healthy vagaina"  but to me this is NOT Normal this is far from normal.

    So here is the deal I am 26 yr old female. I am  sexually active. But for the past year now i have noticed changes down there. There is no smell, no itching, no burning & As I stated the DOC says everything is fine and all tests are negative.

    But I know all women have discharge but mine has become increasingly heavier and thicker and has changed in texture and color and does frequently. Some times it is mostly clear and almost has the consitency of snot. (gross I know I am sorry) Other times my vagina almost feels dry but there is like "clots" of slightly yellowish or greenish tinted clumps inside.

    My husband said he has noticed a little bit of a change says I have a different taste & smell but says it is not at all bad just different.  It is becoming embarrassing for me though it makes me not want to be as intimate with my husband because I am worried he might think it is gross because honestly I think it is gross. And while I know nothing i could ever do would gross him out just bc of who he is and the stuff he deals with day to day I feel it is ruining our sex life. And honestly I dont like him going down on me anymore or manually stimulating me because  Honestly I fear what might come out. My husband things i am overeacting and assures me everything seems fine to him but it is becoming embarassing to me and makes me feel dirty & unsexy. 

    I dont douche, I dont use any sort of harsh soaps I actually use an unscented feminine wash down there. We do use condoms, and lube but we always go with something without a scent or such.

    I just dont understand how my doctor could say this is normal. None of my friends seem to have this problem. Ladies please is this really Normal? Have u ever dealt with such? How should I handle this?

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    Honestly, to me it sounds like the normal changes your body does via cervical "mucous" during your cycle. I would suggest checking out "taking charge of your fertility" so you can learn more about it. If your Dr. thinks your healthy you probably are. Have you changed any BC or anything? Perhaps that's the "change." but honestly, what you just described is a correlation of what your body goes through around ovulation.

     
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    FutureHarp    November 11, 2011   Katy, TX

    You are not the only one... i am 27 and the same thing has been happening to me. The doctor said i was fine and nothing was wrong. the bf and i always take a shower before and after. It is normal as you get older your body changes and remember no one is ever the same, everyones body is different. :) i also carry around summer eve wipes to make me feel fresher through out the day.

     
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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    @KLP2010: My birthcontrol hasnt changed well not really I have been on the pill for years and recently it has started to make me sick so I have not been taking the pill in the last 4 months because everytime i took it i would feel so sick to my stomach that is why we started the usage of condoms. I have another appointment 2 weeks from now to discuss another option of birth control and i planned to bring my issue up to him yet again but I know he is getting sick of the same conversations and I am getting sick of him telling me nothing!

    See he claims it is all a normal process but why all of a sudden in the last year a change?

     
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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    @FutureHarp: My mom thinks it might be due to hormonal changes as I am getting older. She says she started noticing changes in her body in her late 20's and my mom went through full on menopause at the age of 49. Yes I always shower before too but and i dont know how to put this any other way but it is like all the issues I havedont come out on their own. They just stay in there till something causes them to come out... stimulation, penetration etc.

    I just dont know how to make myself feel better about the issue

     
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    KLP2010    October 30, 2010  

    Well, first, there probably isn't an issue. Do yourself a favor, go to Amazon, Barnes and Noble, etc and get yourself a copy of Taking Charge of your Fertility. Every month there are changes in our Cervical Fluid that are relating to our fertility. What you listed as "symptoms" of something going "wrong" are exactly "normal" phases of the CF to a T. This is actually part of signs that we look for when using the Sympto-Thermal method to prevent or achieve pregnancy. If you did stop the pill 4 months ago I'm sure that is part of it as your body adjusts.

    What drives me nuts is that Dr's will tell you "oh it's normal" but not educate you! So many Dr's are not educated about Fertility Awareness and this is basic stuff we should know! So many people (like you and myself before I learned about it) think something is wrong or "off" about their body because no one teaches us about it and dr's just prescribe the pill for anything and everyone. Dr's don't believe me when I tell them I'm not on BC. Really? Since when did women have to be on BC to be a "woman?" Sorry, I digress.

    Don't stress yourself out. Start charting and that way as well when you see your Dr. you can show them exactly what's happening. And perhaps find a new Dr. who is familiar with FAM. Once you learn this stuff, you can use it to achieve or postpone a pregnancy, thus rendering a pill useless. It's free, your body is already telling you everything, it's better for the environment, and you will know as soon as something actually IS off. What you describe though? Normal.

     
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    hope1275    August 7, 2010   NH

    I was just going to say it sounds hormonal. It also sounds very normal. My hair started getting wavy when i was in my mid-twenties after a lifetime of stick straight hair, which hairdressers will tell you is related to hormonal changes. I didn't feel different, but there it was. If I remember correctly, my hairdresser said that it happens roughly every 7 to 10 years or so, but don't quote me on that.

    I'll tell you a secret--we do get tired of saying the same thing over and over again sometimes, because nothing's going to change. ;) But we also understand that it's because the answer is unsatisfying for some reason, either because it seems way too simple ("it has to be more than that!") or you think it's something bigger than it really is because it's never happened to you before (although we see it all the time so we've seen the proof that it's really not that big a deal). I know the answer is unsatisfying, but it really does sound like very normal hormonal changes which happen in your mid-late twenties or so.

    Your husband said it himself--it's not at all bad, just different. I know how hard it is not to be self-conscious about it, though. Can you talk to him about it and see if he can give you some reassurance for a little while when you're being intimate?

     
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    nona49    June 5, 2010  

    i have also heard that changes in your diet can cause changes in discharge color and consistency.  Not really sure about the details, but this might be something to research.

     
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    ejs4y8    June 20, 2009  

    Ditto the hormonal issues. I've had some of these mucous issues before when I was on different medications that drastically changed my body's hormones, but yours is probably just a natural fluctuation. If your husband isn't worried about it, try to take on that mindset. After all, a lot of NOT pretty stuff comes out of him, too =]

     
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    MissAsB    June 6, 2009   Married in CO, Living in AL

    I agree with the other bees that it sounds like normal changes because you went off the BC.  But I think you need to see a new doctor because someone being dismissive with you and not telling you what the cause of the changes is ridiculous.

     
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    FutureMrs.Harless    July 25, 2010   Northeast TN

    I really appreciate you all being honest with me and taking the time to read this. It does make me feel somewhat better to have other women say yes this happens to me too. My friends seem to look at me like are you serious get back to the dr. 

    I will definately look into that book, it does make me feel silly that all of this is normal but I didn't know it. I guess because like i stated before it hadn't happened to me so I assumed something wasn't right.

    I think maybe i will talk to my husband more about why I have been more distant & have cut out some of his favorite parts of our sexual routine Maybe making him more aware of the fact that this is bothering me will help me feel less embarrassed about the issue

     
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    rushing_bride    November 18, 2010  

    well, im a dr and based on ur post, everything seems normal. the most important thing is to rule out infection. and tht has already been done.

    sometimes, the normal bacteria in the vagina increase in number, u can simply use a bicarbonate based vaginal wash for that.

    any discharge that doesnt itch, smell or is yellow-green in color is considered physiologic.

    actually secretion can is a part of healthy ovulatory menstrual cycles, mid cycle secretions mean that ur ovulating.

    as the girls have already said, taste can be part of diet, yougurt, strawberry, pineapple makes u taste nice.

    stop worrying, every single woman is really conscious abt the way she looks, tastes or smells downthere. but just be confident and get more intimate w ur hubby and ull forget about it.

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    Has your diet changed? I find that when my diet changes, so do a lot of things, including what goes on down yonder ;)

    Also, (TMI) I know guys' semen tastes/smells differently as a result of what they eat.

     
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    sleepingbeauty88       Northern Virginia

    I've never had an abnormal pap smear and I've always thought myself to have a heavier secretion. It usually changes a lot around ovulation, and I've heard a lot about women going through another big hormone change around 25. I wouldn't worry about it. I have noticed though that some baby powder in the area helps keep the moisture down so it's not as annoying. Hope it helps!

     
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    chocolatemalt    July 25, 2010   Austin, TX

    I agree with the above poster (MissAsB) who said that you should switch doctors. While I am sure your discharge is normal, especially since the doctor has tested you, that doesn't mean that he can't talk to you about possible causes or things you should try to change it.

    While I agree that the discharge is probably normal and not a cause for concern (health-wise), that doesn't mean that I don't sympathize with your feelings about it. I was on the same birth control for a long time and then one month I just started getting this very strange discharge--it was odorless, and not itchy, but I would have profuse white and yellow clumps, which would of course make their appearance during/after intercourse or other sexual acts. It really made me feel self-conscious and less interested in sex. My doctor told me I was normal and that this was just a normal vaginal discharge, nothing more. She just dismissed me basically.

    For me, it must have been hormonal, because I went off of that birth control and everything was fine. Alright, there wasn't anything medically wrong with me, but the discharge wasn't normal *for me* and it bothered me. Your doctor should be able to understand that. I wonder, could you have some kind of allergy to your condoms or lube, since it's only been in the last few months? Or maybe your hormones will even themselves out, since you are adjusting to being off the pill. Of course I don't know what the issue is, but I wanted to say that I felt your pain!

     

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