Fertility and TTC advise

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

I have never used the mirena coil so I cannot speak to that, but i agree with your FI that if the tests come back positive it would be best to TTC much earlier than according to plan (which would probably be around your wedding anyway right?). If you don’t mind the elim possibility of being pregnant for your wedding, I would say just NTNP until you get the test results

Post # 4
1229 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand

UKbee:  no worries! Ntnp means not trying, not preventing. So basically being off whatever form of birth controk you were using but not really actively trying either in the sense of charting to “baby dance” on your ovulation days or using ovulation predictor kits. 

Post # 6
2197 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

UKbee:  Here is a link to the baby related abbreviations: http://wiki.weddingbee.com/Abbreviations#Common_Baby_Related_Abbreviations

I don’t have any advice really. But as someone who is still TTC over a year after getting off the birth control pill, I’d say go ahead and get started! Timing will never be “perfect”. Many, many, many people have children without owning a home and are perfectly fine! Also, if you have debts paid off, you are headed in the right direction. Good luck to you!!

Post # 7
8480 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013


As long as you can pay for everything (stuff for baby, daycare, housing, etc) and have some to spare with stable jobs I don’t think you need to wait until the perfect time.  Because there usually isn’t one.  Especially if you might have issues related to age.

Sorry I didn’t have mirena but I was on BCP for a long time and went off a few months before our wedding.  I figured it would take a while to regulate my periods because my periods were not regular at all before the pill.  They were highly irregular, actually.  But I got pregnant right away, so a little unexpected (but not a surprise I guess- unprotected sex and all) since I wanted to wait about 3 or 4 months before starting.  So there’s no way to predict how it will go.

We didn’t have a house either (something I definitely wanted before TTC) because our lease wasn’t up until this September (I resigned about 4 weeks before I found out I was pregnant actually) but it’s not really a big deal.  Baby is 3.5 months old so she sleeps in our room anyway, I wouldn’t put her in her own room if I had a 5+ bedroom house.  So baby will probably be sleeping in your room until 5 or 6 months.  Now we get the fun of moving into our house with a 5 month old.  Baby really doesn’t care whether you live in an apartment or house at this age.  They really don’t take up much space and they aren’t mobile for 6 months at least.  As long as you’re stable and can pay all your bills and pay for baby.

Post # 9
239 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We are in a similar position, getting married in 4 weeks, living in rented accomodation (also in the UK) and thinking of TTC straight away. I have a previous medical history of fertility problems as I was married previously, unsuccessfully TTC and had a lot of investigations which turned out I wasn’t ovulating properly and had some hormonal problems. I’m a bit older than you, at 34 and this coupled with my history means that I just want to start TTC straight away in case we do need some intervention to get pregnant. My FI feels the same way luckily so we are just going to give it a go after the wedding.

I know living in rented accomodation is not ideal but, to be honest, it’s not the end of the world either. There are some upsides – i.e. if your boiler breaks or there is a problem with your house then you don’t have to pay to fix it, plus it’s much easier to move to areas which have good schools when you are renting compared to trying to buy somewhere in a good area. There is the problem that your landlord might decide to sell which could always happen and means renting is a bit more insecure but if you dwell on that then you’ll never do anything! If I was on your position with the possibility of an early menopause I would really want to get started immediately.

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